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Searching for an Ah Ha Moment

July 17, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

Searching for an ah ha moment?  Try walking outside or washing your hands. Have you ever stopped to wonder where a particular thought came from? Can you recall a time when you experienced one of those beautiful ‘ah ha’ moments, a situation where answers seem to slide with synchronistic ease into an easily recognisable pattern? What were you doing at the time?

 Many of my dazzling ‘ah ha’ moments arrive when I am in the bathroom surrounded by water. It doesn’t seem to matter if my whole body  is submerged (in the shower) or if I am simply running water over my hands, either way, the physical experience of water upon skin seems to provide a ‘free time’ moment where my mind can play. These times of respite are extremely valuable because they enable creative endeavours. An example may help illustrate the point.

Recently a colleague and I were working on a project. She is a highly professional, organised and efficient teacher. I am a story teller who delights in creating something tangible from the intangible.  Together, we were destined to form a productive team. However, our best collaborative work was achieved, separately. Rather than solving problems during meetings, our ah ha moments occurred afterwards. At the conclusion of each meeting we opened the door, went to our respective staff rooms and then to the bathroom before going to class (teachers tend to maintain rigorous schedules). Much to our amusement, we both experienced flashes of insight while in this ‘wash phase’ of our respective schedules. Afterwards, in some sort of serendipitous twist of fate, we ‘bumped’ into each other on the way to class. Whilst in transit, we eagerly swapped fresh strategies. This pattern repeated itself on three separate occassions and despite a slightly unconventional collaborative effort, our project was successful with minimal fuss and only an hour and a half of actual ‘meeting’ time.

Now, I realise it may not be practical to wash each time a problem deposits a sticky mass on your hands. Similarly, close proximity to water may not be everyone’s ‘ah ha’ catalyst. However, it is possible to utilise the underlying theory to inspire your own ah ha moment. Put simply, having a shower or washing your hands may cleanse the mind as much as the body. These physical experiences provide the space to be mindful since the action of washing offers a break from the endless chatter of your self-talk. This gap allows a place for new ideas to form because you are mindfully aware of your actions, rather than over deliberating the thoughts that preceded them. In other words, short ‘non-thought moments’ or ‘self chatter pauses’, offer time to experience a mental ‘refresh’.

These ‘mental refresh’ moments have been studied by many – you may like to view this clip where Dr Adam Fraser explains the concepts of The Third Space. Another intriguing example may be found in Dr Karl’s Great Moments in Science – Can walking through a doorway make you forget? During this episode, Dr Karl provides a reason for room to room forgetfulness. He refers to the event-horizon model to suggest our brain processes information in single units and that the aspect on which we we are concentrating, gains the most attention. However, walking through a doorway moves us from one environment into another, and this may cause a memory lapse. This memory lapse, according to Dr Karl, occurs because our brain recognises the need to be attentive to potential threats in the new environment.

So, next time you find yourself over-thinking a problem, perhaps you could try walking out of the room, leaving the old solutions behind. Remember the ‘magic moment’ is the space ‘in-between’. This is the moment you pause your self-talk and allow yourself to hear those intuitive whispers. Perhaps then you will receive your own fresh, ah ha moment.

Welcome to a World of Expression.

Filed Under: Blog, Study Tips Tagged With: ah ha moment, ah ha moments, welcome to a world of expression

Learning, Stories and Mindset

July 8, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

It felt like hitting the jackpot. Nestled within the pages of Saturday’s paper were two glittering gems; an article about the positive impact of sports psychology and an article about the positive impact of stories.

 

  Bang, pop, sparkle!

  There they were.

  The theories underpinning my work; learning, stories and mindset, closely       allied. 

 

 Now I know these ideas are well documented and that they’ve been supported by vast tomes of  research. I also know they’ve been mentioned in popular media before, but to find them side by side in the Sydney Morning Herald seemed a powerful portent. Then, as to confirm intuition, a friend’s facebook post gave further reason to smile – an image of a young girl carrying a poster saying “Children need to be taught how to think, not what to think”.

My heart cart wheeled with childlike exuberance. 

Is This MyStory was validated in triplicate today.

Perhaps I should take a couple of steps back to explain. My book, Is This MyStory gathers these three concepts; learning to learn, gaining greater awareness through narrative and using strategies for targeted mindfulness, then bundles them together in a practical framework. Quite literally, I believe we can develop empathy and self awareness through the mindful appreciation of stories.

An aware state of mind allows us to simultaneously drift into those ah ha moments while still being actively, in the present. This I believe, is one of the greatest gifts of meditation. Meditation provides the mind training and intellectual space to really listen, feel and see. Or, to phrase it in a more personal  way, meditation helped me separate the voice of intuition from the chatter of self talk. 

Is This MyStory aims to promote creative and critical literacy. It helps young people develop their own voice. I believe when young people feel as though they have a voice, and are encouraged to use it, they begin to understand learning is a personal journey undertaken for its intrinsic value. Or to put it simply, young people learn it is their choice to learn. To date, my research has been based on what I have read and what I have observed in the classroom. I have not established control groups nor codified data. However, those who have spent time in more formal research pursuits confirm what my reality shows – learning, stories and mindset are closely allied.

So, to circle back to the beginning – this synchronistic appearance of two articles and a photo may suggest that society will soon (if not already) recognise why learning institutions need to change.

Schools need to offer students the opportunity to learn how to relax, how to show empathy, how to be flexible and how to develop creative problem solving skills. Some of the strategies we can use to achieve this are mindfulness, meditation and storytelling.

 

Welcome to a World of Expression.  

 

P.S If you are interested, these are the articles I was refering to;

1) ‘All Psyched Up’ , Amanda Hooton, The Good Weekend, SMH 7/7/2012 

2) ‘Character Building’, Megan Johnston, Spectrum, SMH 7/7/2012

 

Filed Under: Blog, Reading, Self Esteem Tagged With: learning stories and mindset

The Teacher Who Empowered the Writer

June 30, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

The sun slips beyond the hills sending golden fingers of light to dance gracefully across the water. I am home. This is a place of contentment but not a space for rest, the next chapter waits beneath the keyboard. Instead of being a teacher who writes I am now a writer who teaches. I am a writer. Wow, those words are empowering! I am a writer…

 Yet equally, I am a teacher and I realise the words, I am a teacher, are just as empowering. In fact I believe it was ‘the teacher’ who empowered ‘the writer’. So as I look forward, I also glance back to appreciate the past. Not surprisingly, these pages settle into a narrative pattern.

I recognise the years devoted to teaching and mentoring my International students were the orientation stage of my quest. It was during this time I realised that even though I loved teaching, it was the mentoring and welfare aspects of my role that offered a sense of ‘true’ purpose. Together, we (my students and I) discovered that the processes involved in learning English, could become the foundation for a greater understanding of social systems and cultural alertness.

Then in 2008 came the initiating event that was to alter my teaching focus forever – College 8. For the first time in ten years I was teaching local students – local students who were only thirteen years old. This was a new world of hormonal confusion and identity recognition – for the girls and myself. As the year progressed a fresh path emerged and this glimmering trail coaxed me forward in a new direction. Together, we discovered that the processes involved in learning English offered the opportunity to view stories as personal access points. These doors provided entry to an illuminated track that led toward greater recognition of self.

By 2009 a complication was revealed. College 8 became College 9, a new College 8 was added to my class list and I was introduced to the rambunctious, pragmatic sensitivity of Grammar 10.  As I shared the learning space with 16 year old boys and witnessed men struggling to emerge from under a boy’s shadow I realised I had reached an impasse. Change had arrived and decisions needed to be made. Who was I? What did I stand for? What was I going to teach? Pushing forward with Grammar 10 I saw what could be taught. I recognised that English lessons could be more than literature appreciation or essay writing; they could prepare students for a life (and a critical literacy) beyond the school gates.

So by 2010 I reached a resolution. Drawing upon the experience of previous years I began to write. I started to blog and dove deeper into the research surrounding learning styles and cognitive processing. By this point, my class list included Grammar 7; twelve year old boys who were a shifting mass of fearful bravado. College 8 became College 9, College 9 became College 10 and Grammar 10 rolled into Standard 11. The stage was set, my objective clear. I was an English teacher who wanted more than academic success for her students. I wanted my students to recognise their emotions, identify their thoughts and channel them towards clear objectives. Together we would use language and stories to prepare for a successful, critically aware, mindfully chosen, life.

2011 presented the opportunity for evaluation. I watched the students fulfil their goals. I saw boys and girls become young men and women. I finished writing Is This MyStory and recognised how my personal narrative had been shaped by the students I  taught. This is why their names grace the cover of my book. The design was a conscious way of honouring my student’s legacy – the inspiration they provided and the lessons they taught.

Although ‘you can’t judge a book by its cover’, in reality most of us do. So when you look at the cover of Is This MyStory, what do you see? I see hope. I see bright individuals who have made a conscious decision to be the author of their own life. I see confident, courageous, creative and compassionate young men and women. I see my students.

As a writer, I acknowledge the power of a teacher.

Filed Under: Blog, Teaching, Writing

Do not say Goodbye

June 17, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

A week from today life will be very different. A week from today I will be on my own; the thought is simultaneously exhilarating and terrifying. This time next week I will open the door and walk into a world of self-reliance. I imagine this is how my year 12s feel each year as they turn to face the dying days of term three and realise, they will soon refer to the school which sheltered them for the past 12 years as – ‘my old high school’.

A week from today I will close the door to my classroom. I will wish my students a safe, fun filled holiday and leave knowing I am no longer their English teacher. However, I cannot say goodbye. The finality of the words seem too permanent and just as I have never said ‘goodbye’ to my year 12s, I cannot say ‘goodbye’ to my students now. So instead, to all my classes I will say ‘see you later’.

Of course, ‘see you later’ is not enough. It does not express the myriad of emotion I feel knowing I will not see their smiling (ok, usually smiling) faces glancing up at me as they fold themselves onto plastic chairs that balance precariously on two (make that one) leg. I wonder if they will miss the times I reminded them to listen carefully all the while offering hand signals worthy of an air traffic controller. I question if they will remember the lessons that drifted from the text into the world of human experience. I hope they will continue to reflect upon how a story speaks to them.

I know I will miss my classes, even though I carry their legacy inside. My students have been my inspiration and their shadows have found a home within my world of expression. They live in my memory. My students have my respect, my loyalty and my admiration; so to all of you – past and present, I say a big and heartfelt THANK YOU.

As I turn toward the future I feel a growing anticipation. The next chapter of my story promises to be an exciting adventure. Soon I will have the time to really teach. Rather than being constrained by curriculum, I can offer students so much more. I can teach them how to learn. I will stand beside many students, from many schools and support them while they become aware of themselves and their place within the world. I will introduce them to effective communication and critical literacy.

Is This MyStory is ready to launch. You are all welcome to join this quest. Will you walk with me along the learning path?

Filed Under: Blog, Teaching

Romeo, Juliet and the Blame Game

May 20, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

Do you accept responsibility for your actions, or do you play the blame game? When things go wrong, as a result of your choices, do you accept accountability or do you blame someone else?

At this point, with year 10 classes in mind, I would like to take a short detour into the world of Romeo and Juliet. Students may recognise my favourite quote, a line delivered by Friar Lawrence,

‘Within the infant rind of this weak flower / poison hath residence and medicine power”

In other words, a situation has the potential to be helpful or unhelpful depending on the choices made. Those who know the play may remember, these lines of dialogue foreshadow the priest’s involvement in the tragic ending of the play. In the final Act, Friar Lawrence accepts responsibility for his actions. He admits he married the couple in secret. He admits he gave Juliet a sleeping potion (so she could avoid marriage to Paris). He admits he failed in his efforts to contact Romeo (so Romeo did not know Juliet was in a death-like sleep). Nevertheless, audiences (and the Prince) accept Friar Lawrence’s actions were motivated by peace and love. However, even though his intentions were pure, the outcomes were not as he intended. The waring families may have buried their hate, unfortunately the cost was higher than Friar Lawrence, Romeo or Juliet ever imagined.

You may be wondering how this reference to literature relates you.

The answer to this question is best found within your Self. What message about choice, consequence and responsibility will you take from this example?

Do you recognise the times where, even though your intentions were good and you planned a particular outcome, circumstances delivered a different result? Importantly, at these times, are you willing to accept responsibility for your actions?

Filed Under: Blog, Learning, Self Esteem Tagged With: accept responsibility, blame game, choice and consequence, Romeo and Juliet

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