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Give Power to the Students

November 25, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

Are the pollies frightened of our kids becoming too educated? I know they talk about Australia leading the intellectual race, but are their words simply designed to appease anxious parents and apprehensive industry? Could suggested education reforms be calculated for control and accountability, rather than aspiring for innovation and construction?

Naplan, MySchools, budget cuts to education portfolios, blaming teachers for not being smart enough, increased administrative tasks and imposing rigid systems, all seem counterproductive. How can they inspire the flexibility of thought or adoption of proactive strategies that inspire the habits of mind required for a dynamic 21st century workforce.

Perhaps governments are concerned that a flexible thinking, critically literate society would see past political rhetoric. Maybe those whose leadership is based on hurling insults or fudging figures are worried because creative and emotionally literate individuals are less predictable. Could they be worried that a thinking populous would undermine the fabric of society as they know it?

Of course critical thinking and blind compliance do not go hand in hand. A critically, creatively and emotionally literate society has the potential to recognise untruths, make objective decisions and choose to act responsibly, all of their own accord. What would the administrators and bureaucrats do if the vast majority of the population were able to voice their opinions in an authentic and assertive manner? Worse, what would they do if people had the tools to think for themselves? Is that why calls for effective education reform fall on deaf ears?

Schools need the freedom and funds to do what is in the best interest of students. Our children need the empowerment inspired by critical, creative and emotionally literacy. The children of today are the leaders of the future. It is time they were given an opportunity to develop an authentic voice and provided with the platform to speak. They need to learn the focused, self motivated skills of lifelong learners. The old industrial model of schooling is no longer applicable. Students do not need to sit in organised rows, diligently digesting content poured from a fountain of textbook trapped knowledge. Instead they need to become digitally proficient investigators who can analyse, evaluate and synthesise information from a variety of sources. Today’s student needs to become a flexible thinker who has the courage to reach beyond what is known to what could be.

Literacy is the key. Critical, creative and emotional literacy can open the door to 21st century learning. It is the foundation for collaborative and project based learning experiences that offer opportunities to participate in learning that has a practical, real world focus.

It is time to take a proactive approach and equip all children with the tools they require to access inner awareness, discover an authentic voice and become confident lifelong learners who have the skills to thrive in a digitally enhanced landscape.

Welcome to a world of Expression

Filed Under: Blog, Reading, Teaching, Writing Tagged With: education reform, kids becoming too educated, lifelong learners, literacy skills, power of critical literacy, power to students, welcome to a world of expression

A Worrisome World of Cyber Concern

November 18, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

Is the internet a “parents’ worst nightmare”? Political columnist Michelle Grattan suggests “Parents’ concerns means that the pollies are getting worried too.”  Yes parents are worried. So are schools, teachers and counselors. The question is, how can we help. Of course we rely on governments to offer secure legislative foundations. But legislation, rules and restrictions are not enough.

We need proactive strategies that empower children to protect themself. A year ago I suggested we need to teach students how to use Facebook responsibly. Now it is time to examine ways to encourage teenagers to develop their own authentic voice. Our children may be digital natives, but they are not equipped to navigate a new world filled with enhanced, old world problems. Children are being bullied on-line and parents feel powerless to help. Schools cannot keep up with rapidly expanding environments that offer limitless opportunities to explore digital frontiers.  Government legislation struggles to compete with boarders opened by technological keys.

We all know dangers lurk within cyber realms. We all know steps must be taken to ensure the safety of our kids. But too many programs focus on digital treatments; it is time to develop technology vaccinations.

Parents, carers and teachers need to know how to help children realise they can minimise risk. Of course we need to provide safe places. However, our children also need their own shields and weapons; tools that empower and protect. We need to help our teenagers develop the skills they need to help themselves; this has particularly relevance for those times we are not there to guide them.

Today’s child is uber-connected. Many have a well developed sense of social conscience, however they feel disenfranchised and detached. They are lost within a world that bombards them with information but doesn’t take the time to teach them the practical strategies they need to interpret or evaluate that information. Today’s children are pioneers in a wild cyber world that evolves rapidly. Many adults misinterpret the effect of growing up in digitally connected spaces. They forget that being exposed to multiple cultures and ideas can lead to a wider sense of social justice. Many of today’s youth are sensitive to the needs of faceless others but, because their connections are cyber based, they fail to develop personal connections. This fracture leads to confusion and frustration. Our kids want to ‘matter’ they want to feel as though they have a voice and that someone will listen. They want their life to mean something. Yet, too often they lack the self awareness or literacy skills to articulate their thoughts and emotions to themselves, let alone wider society. Too many suffer from anxiety and low self-esteem because they lack the skills to interpret what they are thinking and feeling. As a result they ‘act up’ and ‘lash out’, directing inner anger toward outer victims. They settle for destructive relationships and hide behind a peer favored mask.

I believe students can use critical reflection and thoughtful expression to discover the path of a lifelong learner. My quest is to help young adults develop critical, emotional and creative literacy. Through the mindful appreciation of stories, narrative technique, focused breathing and creative visualisation students can learn how to identify and manage their emotions. When teenagers discover they have a voice that speaks loud enough to be heard, they may begin to develop a sense of where their lives fit within a wider community.

MyStory; MyQuest is my attempt to help teens find inner awareness, discover an authentic voice and become confident lifelong learners who have the skills to thrive in  digitally enhanced landscapes.

Welcome to a World of Expression

Filed Under: Blog, Teaching, Technology Tagged With: cyber concern, cyber safety, Develop authentic voice, power of critical literacy, stop cyber bullying, stop online bullying, use facebook responsibly, welcome to a world of expression

Searching for an Ah Ha Moment

July 17, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

Searching for an ah ha moment?  Try walking outside or washing your hands. Have you ever stopped to wonder where a particular thought came from? Can you recall a time when you experienced one of those beautiful ‘ah ha’ moments, a situation where answers seem to slide with synchronistic ease into an easily recognisable pattern? What were you doing at the time?

 Many of my dazzling ‘ah ha’ moments arrive when I am in the bathroom surrounded by water. It doesn’t seem to matter if my whole body  is submerged (in the shower) or if I am simply running water over my hands, either way, the physical experience of water upon skin seems to provide a ‘free time’ moment where my mind can play. These times of respite are extremely valuable because they enable creative endeavours. An example may help illustrate the point.

Recently a colleague and I were working on a project. She is a highly professional, organised and efficient teacher. I am a story teller who delights in creating something tangible from the intangible.  Together, we were destined to form a productive team. However, our best collaborative work was achieved, separately. Rather than solving problems during meetings, our ah ha moments occurred afterwards. At the conclusion of each meeting we opened the door, went to our respective staff rooms and then to the bathroom before going to class (teachers tend to maintain rigorous schedules). Much to our amusement, we both experienced flashes of insight while in this ‘wash phase’ of our respective schedules. Afterwards, in some sort of serendipitous twist of fate, we ‘bumped’ into each other on the way to class. Whilst in transit, we eagerly swapped fresh strategies. This pattern repeated itself on three separate occassions and despite a slightly unconventional collaborative effort, our project was successful with minimal fuss and only an hour and a half of actual ‘meeting’ time.

Now, I realise it may not be practical to wash each time a problem deposits a sticky mass on your hands. Similarly, close proximity to water may not be everyone’s ‘ah ha’ catalyst. However, it is possible to utilise the underlying theory to inspire your own ah ha moment. Put simply, having a shower or washing your hands may cleanse the mind as much as the body. These physical experiences provide the space to be mindful since the action of washing offers a break from the endless chatter of your self-talk. This gap allows a place for new ideas to form because you are mindfully aware of your actions, rather than over deliberating the thoughts that preceded them. In other words, short ‘non-thought moments’ or ‘self chatter pauses’, offer time to experience a mental ‘refresh’.

These ‘mental refresh’ moments have been studied by many – you may like to view this clip where Dr Adam Fraser explains the concepts of The Third Space. Another intriguing example may be found in Dr Karl’s Great Moments in Science – Can walking through a doorway make you forget? During this episode, Dr Karl provides a reason for room to room forgetfulness. He refers to the event-horizon model to suggest our brain processes information in single units and that the aspect on which we we are concentrating, gains the most attention. However, walking through a doorway moves us from one environment into another, and this may cause a memory lapse. This memory lapse, according to Dr Karl, occurs because our brain recognises the need to be attentive to potential threats in the new environment.

So, next time you find yourself over-thinking a problem, perhaps you could try walking out of the room, leaving the old solutions behind. Remember the ‘magic moment’ is the space ‘in-between’. This is the moment you pause your self-talk and allow yourself to hear those intuitive whispers. Perhaps then you will receive your own fresh, ah ha moment.

Welcome to a World of Expression.

Filed Under: Blog, Study Tips Tagged With: ah ha moment, ah ha moments, welcome to a world of expression

Nicole Shares Leadership Talents

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Nicole Talks Connectedness

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Is This MyStory – Guided Meditation

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