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Just Tell Me What to Do

June 26, 2013 By Nicole Feledy

Some students don’t want autonomy. They don’t want the space to be creative, they don’t want to direct their own learning and they certainly don’t want make their own decisions. Some students simply want to be given the required information.

  

     Does that mean we should go back to sage on the stage instruction?

     

     Should we ditch project based learning?

     

 

No, of course not. But we do need to understand ‘who’ students are, ‘where’ they are and then provide the tools for learning.

True, the internet is littered with stories about teenagers discovering learning, finding new ways to use technology and developing their own start ups, but few will take this kind of initiative.

We could bemoan the lack of motivation and point to the problems which promote passive learning. We could blame helicopter parents, over crowded curriculums and high stakes testing.

Or, we could just teach. 

In other words, we can make the process of learning visible. We can help our students rise above environmental, political and social factors to discover intrinsic motivation and creative inspiration.  We can give students confidence in their ability to learn.

How?

Imagine how you’d feel opening a door that led to a dark, unfamiliar room. Perhaps you’d stand at the threshold waiting for someone else to go first. Maybe you’d enter the room slowly; anxiously feeling your way, expecting to bump into obstacles. You may even refuse to enter.

Now imagine being given a torch. How would your process through the room change?

Perhaps this small radiant beam would entice you to step into the unknown, its brightness offering a sense of security. Maybe the light would reassure you; it could help you see where you were going and assess the risk.

This is what we need to give our students. A guiding light that illuminates the path through unfamiliar learning situations. If a student believes they have the tools necessary to complete a task, they are more likely to approach a challenge with a sense of anticipation, rather than one of dread … or boredom. At this point I should remind you, my analogy called for a torch not a flood light – perhaps you can imagine why? (After all this post is as much about modelling as it is about encouraging the development of intrinsic learning).

I believe it is important to recognise the impact student’s self perception. Sometimes we need to teach engagement because students haven’t seen they have the skills to perform a task – or they lack confidence in their ability to learn. We need to provide base tools before we can expect intrinsic motivation or creative inspiration. We need to model and offer opportunities for students to practice the skills of inquiry, problem solving and critical thinking. Why? Because when we teach how to learn, we give students the tools for flexible thinking. This feeds confident learning, which boosts courageous learning and encourages students to make their own choices. I guess what I’m trying to say is self motivation, as with any skill, has a more progressive step by step learning path than we may perceive.

So, we need to offer opportunities for creative inspiration. Yes …  we need to offer. In other words we, as teachers, need to provide the space for students to feel confident enough to explore, experiment and build on their own.

Anyone who has met me, knows I believe very strongly in wellbeing, choice and freedom. I am passionate about self-direct learning. However, I am also realistic enough to know many students do not like being given a problem and told, “solve it”. Most students – actually, if we’re being honest, most of us, like some structure, a few parameters, a little direction. We like to know what is expected of us and that we can access what we need to complete the task. We don’t like feeling as though we are wasting our time, or our energy. We are motivated by accomplishment.

So, next time a students says to you “just tell me what I have to do” instead of decrying the coddled state of today’s teens, perhaps you could hand them a torch and say “lets find out together.”

Welcome to a World of Expression
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Filed Under: Blog, Learning, Teaching Tagged With: Just tell me what to do, student intrinsic motivation, student motivation, students want information, teach motivation

What Motivates Students?

May 19, 2013 By Nicole Feledy

What motivates you? Is it money, praise or the opportunity to prove you’re better than than the next person? Or, is it something else? Is it an elusive determination to discover more. 

 In his TED talk What Makes Us Feel Good About Our Work, Dan Ariely  explores the concept of motivation. Although he focuses on the labour  market his results have specific relevance to education and learning. He  suggests money isn’t always the prime motivator. Rather, Ariely says  progress and a sense of accomplishment may be more encouraging. 

 I think he has a point.

 As a teacher I have seen meaningless tasks, tasks that lack an authentic  audience, lead to glazed eyes and fidgeting fingers . The ensuing  boredom  provokes a search for something more ‘entertaining’, something that infers challenge. Similarly a lack of recognition often sends students hunting for more attention – any attention. 

As his presentation concludes Ariely proposes, ‘in a knowledge economy, meaning is more important than efficiency’. He explains, motivation is not born of payment and empty praise, but of factors such as “meaning, creation, challenge, ownership, identity and pride”. 

I believe him.

I have seen the crestfallen looks of students who laboured faithfully over a particular piece of work, only to be given a number on a page, a number suggesting they haven’t done enough. Although some strive to ‘make the grade’. Many don’t. They become angry, frustrated and bitterly disappointed. They feel as though their efforts have been wasted. 

Our students need more than red scratches on a piece of paper. They deserve more than abstract numbers to signal success. They require progress.

We can offer authentic learning experiences. We can set tasks that have real world application. We can provide opportunities to apply knowledge and solve problems – challenges which are relevant to students’ experience.

We can give our students a chance to feel motivated. 

If you watch the clip, here’s a challenge. Can you think of a way to use these ideas to increase your own motivation? In a sense I’m asking you to manage your own motivational mindset.

 

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Filed Under: Blog, Learning Tagged With: Dan Ariely relevance to education, give students a chance to feel motivated, motivate students, What motivates, What motivates students

Why Does Everything in English Have to Be a Metaphor For Something?

May 10, 2013 By Nicole Feledy

“Why does everything in English have to be a metaphor for something? Why can’t a fence be just a fence”  This question, proposed by a somewhat frustrated student, prompted the following discussion.

  Student 1 – Why does everything in English have to be a metaphor for                            something? Why can’t a fence be just a fence. 

  Student 2 – Because the fence represents the character’s feelings of being                      trapped.

  Student 1 – Or is it just a fence.

  Student 3 – I think it’s just a fence.

  Student 2 – It is definitely not just a fence.

 Student 4 – The fence is just a fence, but it also has a deeper meaning than you’ll ever know.

 Student 5 – Yeah, but do we really care about this deeper meaning of the fence?

 Student 6 – Yes of course. An A-range student always cares about the deeper meaning of objects.

 Student 7 – I’ll tell (teacher’s name) where he can put that deeper meaning of a fence!

 

I found this exchange incredibly encouraging. Here was a group of students actively thinking about their learning. They were not sitting in class dutifully absorbing material presented by a teacher; they were reflecting and evaluating.These students were engaged in thoughtful dialogue. They were asking questions and proposing answers. 

These seven students were laying the foundations for critical evaluation. 

I believe this is one of those ‘catch them doing something good’ moments that requires recognition and praise. We need to acknowledge the learning within exchanges such as this so our students can. 

So, congratulations girls and boys – you have witnessed, participated and jumped a figurative fence.

 

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Filed Under: Blog, Learning Tagged With: metaphor in English, Why can't a fence be just a fence, Why does everything in English have to be a metaphor

Bullying Frightens Me

April 22, 2013 By Nicole Feledy

Bullying frightens me – which of course is the point. A bully wants their victim to feel powerless and alone. But that’s not the only reason I’m scared. I’m terrified by the misuse of the verb. What happens when a word such as bullying is overused? 

 

 I know I need to tread lightly here – very, very lightly. So I say this in all  sincerity, bullying is dangerous. Every incident must be taken seriously.  Each report of bullying must be investigated. Which is why I worry. I worry  when people ‘cry wolf’. What happens if the label becomes so misused it  loses its impact? 

 What happens if innocent people become the victims of reverse bullying?

 

Sometimes we need to ask; is adult claiming to be bullied expressing anger after being reprimanded for doing a poor job. Is the child claiming to be bullied expressing jealousy after an argument among friends. Is the boy claiming to be bullied seeking revenge because ‘his’ girl choose someone else. Is the girl claiming to be bullied jealous because ‘her’ part in the school play went to another. 

Maybe not. 

As I said, each cry for help must be addressed. No one should be left feeling isolated, scared or misunderstood. 

Nevertheless, I wonder how often a behaviour is assigned a label before it is understood. Do some people choose the bullying label because it will generate the most attention. Worse, do some people claim to be bullied so someone else gets into trouble. 

Perhaps we rely to much on labelling. 

I wonder what would happen if we devoted more time to helping people understand their behaviour. Better yet, what if we helped people recognise the emotions and thoughts underneath behaviour?  Maybe we could address causes of behaviour rather than treating symptoms. 

Perhaps we could stop labelling and start caring for people as individuals.

 

Welcome to a World of Expression

 

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Filed Under: Blog, Self Esteem Tagged With: bullying, Bullying frightens me, bullying is dangerous, bullying label

How To Use Blogging in the Classroom

April 3, 2013 By Nicole Feledy

Do you blog? Perhaps you should because – and I say this with complete certainty, blogging helps you learn. Blogging can help you become a more creative, more precise, more evaluative and more confident, communicator.  Imagine how this will improve your studies. 

 Last week I wrote about developing creativity and I promised to offer a  specific strategy this week.

 Well, here it is…

                               

                                    Start a blog!

 

Make a commitment to yourself and begin to write regularly. Write about what you see, write about what you feel and, if you want to improve your study skills, write about what you are learning. Question your attitude toward content, question the creators of the content and, question your thoughts and feelings toward the evidence presented. Then, compare your new learning to your past experiences and current values. Be curious, be courageous. Have an opinion.

How will this help you become a more creative person?

How will this help you improve your study skills?

Blogging unlocks ideas lodged within your mind. As you write you may notice the patterns formed by an intricate network of thoughts and feelings. These patterns form the foundation of what is loosely termed ‘knowledge’. As these paths become familiar, your confidence will grow and this is where creativity thrives. In essence you will begin to stride along mental paths you have created yourself. These are the ah ha moments – the times when ideas seem to ‘click’ into place. 

Yet this is not the only benefit of blogging. If blogging becomes a regular activity it also acts as practice – a practice that refines your study skills. Put simply, the more frequently you write, the better writer you become. This is especially true when writing for a ‘real’ audience about ‘real’ things that interest you. Additionally, since you are writing for ‘others’, you begin to appreciate the importance of expressing yourself clearly and coherently – after all you want your audience to understand what you are saying. Similarly, your vocabulary is likely to improve as you seek new ways to engage your audience. 

You don’t have to trust me, look at the research. Many have seen how blogging in the classroom supports collaborative projects, is a vehicle for engaged dialogue and improves critical awareness.

So, are you ready to start? 

First, choose a platform. I like to use wordpress (because it is easy to use and personalise) however, you may prefer something like edublogs, tumblr, weebly or blogger.

Next personalise your blog. Play with the settings and create a blog that reflects you and your material.

Then you’re ready to start posting. If you wonder what to write about, click here to find some useful suggestions. You could also look at the class blogs linked to this site. They offer questions for you to think about before writing a response on your own site. 

Although your initial posts may be short, make sure you write regularly. Set aside a time to write each week. This is important, your writing, creativity and evaluative thinking will improve as a result of focused discipline. Thinking about it is not the same as doing!

 Oh, and remember to have FUN. This is your opportunity to have a say about the issues you care about.

 

Welcome to a World of Expression

 

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Filed Under: Blog, Writing Tagged With: blogging helps you learn, blogging to become more creative, how to use blogging in the classroom, I want to improve study skills, refine study skills, study skills

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