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The Teacher Who Empowered the Writer

June 30, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

The sun slips beyond the hills sending golden fingers of light to dance gracefully across the water. I am home. This is a place of contentment but not a space for rest, the next chapter waits beneath the keyboard. Instead of being a teacher who writes I am now a writer who teaches. I am a writer. Wow, those words are empowering! I am a writer…

 Yet equally, I am a teacher and I realise the words, I am a teacher, are just as empowering. In fact I believe it was ‘the teacher’ who empowered ‘the writer’. So as I look forward, I also glance back to appreciate the past. Not surprisingly, these pages settle into a narrative pattern.

I recognise the years devoted to teaching and mentoring my International students were the orientation stage of my quest. It was during this time I realised that even though I loved teaching, it was the mentoring and welfare aspects of my role that offered a sense of ‘true’ purpose. Together, we (my students and I) discovered that the processes involved in learning English, could become the foundation for a greater understanding of social systems and cultural alertness.

Then in 2008 came the initiating event that was to alter my teaching focus forever – College 8. For the first time in ten years I was teaching local students – local students who were only thirteen years old. This was a new world of hormonal confusion and identity recognition – for the girls and myself. As the year progressed a fresh path emerged and this glimmering trail coaxed me forward in a new direction. Together, we discovered that the processes involved in learning English offered the opportunity to view stories as personal access points. These doors provided entry to an illuminated track that led toward greater recognition of self.

By 2009 a complication was revealed. College 8 became College 9, a new College 8 was added to my class list and I was introduced to the rambunctious, pragmatic sensitivity of Grammar 10.  As I shared the learning space with 16 year old boys and witnessed men struggling to emerge from under a boy’s shadow I realised I had reached an impasse. Change had arrived and decisions needed to be made. Who was I? What did I stand for? What was I going to teach? Pushing forward with Grammar 10 I saw what could be taught. I recognised that English lessons could be more than literature appreciation or essay writing; they could prepare students for a life (and a critical literacy) beyond the school gates.

So by 2010 I reached a resolution. Drawing upon the experience of previous years I began to write. I started to blog and dove deeper into the research surrounding learning styles and cognitive processing. By this point, my class list included Grammar 7; twelve year old boys who were a shifting mass of fearful bravado. College 8 became College 9, College 9 became College 10 and Grammar 10 rolled into Standard 11. The stage was set, my objective clear. I was an English teacher who wanted more than academic success for her students. I wanted my students to recognise their emotions, identify their thoughts and channel them towards clear objectives. Together we would use language and stories to prepare for a successful, critically aware, mindfully chosen, life.

2011 presented the opportunity for evaluation. I watched the students fulfil their goals. I saw boys and girls become young men and women. I finished writing Is This MyStory and recognised how my personal narrative had been shaped by the students I  taught. This is why their names grace the cover of my book. The design was a conscious way of honouring my student’s legacy – the inspiration they provided and the lessons they taught.

Although ‘you can’t judge a book by its cover’, in reality most of us do. So when you look at the cover of Is This MyStory, what do you see? I see hope. I see bright individuals who have made a conscious decision to be the author of their own life. I see confident, courageous, creative and compassionate young men and women. I see my students.

As a writer, I acknowledge the power of a teacher.

Filed Under: Blog, Teaching, Writing

Looking Out the Window to a Fresh Perspective

October 2, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

When I am stuck, when I can’t think what to say or write next, I look out the window. At a tangible level looking out the window offers a fresh perspective; a different scene to that which plays out on the computer screen, an alternative horizon to the conjured image of restricting room walls. On a conceptual plane, gazing out the window reminds me to get out of my own head space and be aware of the sights, sounds and sensations around me. Looking out the window offers me the opportunity to regain control of my thought processes and their commanding emotions. It is a gentle reminder to be, rather than expecting to be.

Today, I look out the window to a river that shimmers a deep azure blue and mountains which reach towards cotton ball clouds. It is a peaceful, colourful kaleidoscope and as I look through the lens I recognise the relationship between the river and the internal forces which drive me to write. I notice how the wind blows ripples across the surface, while the pulling tide steers the deeper water in a different direction. These two forces seem to struggle in opposition and the water swirls in confused eddies like small circles of discontent. Is this why I write? Do I seek solace from the conflicting forces which whirl within?

Perhaps.

I know that writing soothes me. I know that the thoughts and emotions lodged deep within crave creative outlet. They long to skim across a carefree surface, frolicking  alongside the winds call. So I write what I feel and as the ideas are pulled from the hidden depths, they lighten and begin to glimmer. They reflect the glow of open space and dance a circling pirouette.

My perspective changes. Now as I look to the river, watching its currents, the circling eddies appear to be a gleeful cooperation between the forces above and below. The window has fulfilled its obligation. It reminded me that I have a choice. I can look at the scene in front of me and choose to see restless conflict, or I can perceive the synergetic collaboration.   

This is the value of perspective; the message of the Window. When we are willing to recognise that the same event or image may be viewed from a more than one angle, we begin to take control of the direction of our thoughts. This is not a matter of simply ‘looking for the positive’. Rather it is a choice to be aware of ourself within a wider context and to recognise we have the power to write our own story.

Ahhh, now I am ready to keep writing my book. I have almost finished and I hope readers of this blog will enjoy the tale I have to tell.

 

Filed Under: Self Esteem, Writing Tagged With: choosing a perspective, fresh perspective, Looking out the window

Why Write?

September 4, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

Today, I sat at my computer to write and…

The words did not flow. Although I had plenty of ideas and some partially written paragraphs that only need a tweak here or there, I just didn’t feel like writing. I glanced at a couple of articles from the paper thinking I could explore some of the issues raised, yet somehow the inspiration that seized me yesterday, abandoned me today. To be fair, I have spent the day writing year 12 reports and this may account for my current mood. I feel as though I have already said all I want to say. I feel as though I have to write, rather than I want to write.

 But…

I made a commitment; a commitment to myself to post each week.  And a commitment to self is difficult to break without emotional consequences. Guilt. It is almost impossible to placate yourself because there is always that inner voice reminding you what you promised. I realised I could offer myself all sorts of excuses; reasons why I didn’t really need to post today but I acknowledged, excuses they were. So I decided to follow the advice I have given my students on countless occasions and just write. Write your way through it, write your thoughts and be honest. Therefore, rather than resisting the frustration, I chose to allow myself to feel it and see where it led. So, I wrote through the block. Guilt dissipated before it had an opportunity to take hold.  I found, even just by writing how I felt (14 sentences ago) the words started to flow a little easier.

Hopefully you have been indulgent enough to read this far. If you have, I would like to share a little insight. This is why your English teachers ask you to write; to write reflections, to write stories, to write evaluations. The process of transferring the electrical impulses of your brain into a tangible form offers the opportunity to actually see and physically manipulate your ideas. In this way you can consider your thoughts from a more objective ‘dispassionate’ stance. Which brings to mind a ‘yet to be discovered’ particle, that a friend brought to my attention, called Higgs Bosun. Physicists believe it will explain why particles have mass. Please remember I am an English teacher, so I realise am probably about to commit all kinds of scientific faux paux but… the reason Higgs Bosun comes to mind is that the search for it reminds me of my motivation to write. Stay with me and I will explain.

Thoughts are intangibles, however we know they ‘exist’ because we can recognise them. Similarly, feelings are every bit as ‘real’ even though we cannot actually take them in our hand to look at them. They are pieces of ‘massless’ energy, electrical impulses that direct our physical actions and become ‘mass’. Yet, how often do you feel ‘out of sorts’ without really knowing why? Can you recall times when it was difficult to define your thoughts or explain how you felt? Science and psychology can offer many different explanations, but…  how would you answer these questions? Have you even asked yourself questions such as these?

I have posted recently about the benefits of mediation and the importance of recognising a ‘connection’ to the places within yourself. Mediation is one way to begin understanding the connection between your thoughts, emotions and actions. Another way is to write. In fact the writing process is a valuable accompaniment to mediation.

This post is ‘proof’. I began writing with no clear thought about what to write. I realise now it was because I had expectations of what I should write, and felt the pressure of a self imposed commitment to write. Yet whatever it was that I thought I should write (or why I should write), it was not in harmony. Therefore an internal battle ensued leaving me with a general ‘blah’ feeling I could not define. So I chose to write what flowed out naturally. This led me here. To a tangible idea; that thoughts and feelings, although intangible, have tangible consequences. As we allow those thoughts and emotions we can move through them to a place where we can actually ‘see’ them for what they are, rather than constructing excuses for actions or behaviours.

So, next time you are feeling an emotion or think a thought which causes ‘dis-ease’, dis-comfort’, frustration or even guilt, maybe you could write. Write what flows though your mind. Write until you can actually see what underpins those feelings and thoughts. Then, look honestly at those emotions and thoughts. You may find yourself viewing a situation from a different point of view and with this new perspective you can observe Hope  (‘nic’s particle’). In other words emotions or thoughts running wild and unchecked can build into ghost particles which are difficult to manage. Yet when we look closer we can gain a measure of real control. With a sense of control comes the understanding that we have a choice. We can choose what we ‘write’, we can choose the consequence of our emotions. And from here we know we can achieve what we want to achieve.

Can you see how this may be useful for you when you know you need to study?

Yes! I wrote my post.

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How Do I Write a Good Personal Reflection

August 14, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

How do ‘I write a good personal reflection?’  Many students are riding intellectual waves, devoting hours of mental and emotional energy to examination preparation so, today’s post is a practical one inspired by a question from my year 12 students.

How do I write a good personal reflection?

First it is useful to clarify, ‘what is a personal reflection?’ As is the case with most reflective writing, a Personal Reflection is a response to a particular stimulus. Often, it is written by an individual to explore personal experiences, feelings and events. A personal reflection is an opportunity to reconsider events, thoughts and feelings from a fresh perspective. Many blog posts are written in this style. However you may also be required to write a Personal Reflection within an academic context.

In the English classroom, personal reflections are usually a response to what you’re studying. For example, you may be required to offer a personal reflection during examinations. In these cases, examiners want to gauge how successfully you can interact with a text (previously seen and unseen). You need to show that you can evaluate ideas and draw a comparison between those ideas, and your own. At other times you may be required to reflect upon your own learning in order to identify then evaluate, which approaches have been helpful or unhelpful. You may also be asked to consider your own role in the learning process.

The key to writing a successful personal reflection is to remember that it is a personal response made by you. Therefore, your responses are usually different from someone else’s. Your response will be influenced by:

1) Your opinions, beliefs and experiences

2) Similarities or contrasts to your own life (i.e. experiences you can identify with)

3) How real or believable a subject / text is

4) Your emotional state at a given moment

5) Sympathy or empathy with characters

 

Even though you have been asked to provide a personal response you will still need to justify your opinion. This means you need to give reasons why you developed your ideas.You can support your response through:

1) Examples from the text

2) referring to specific events within a text

3) referring to specific quotes within a text

 

Remember when writing a personal reflection, you are offering your opinions. However you are also demonstrating that you have thought about the issue carefully and, from multiple perspectives. So you need to show the development of your thoughts. For example;

“I used to believe …, however, after considering the effect of … my perception has shifted …. Once seemed obvious that … yet now it is more tempting to ask …. Perhaps …. is an assumption which relies too heavily on … Therefore it may be more accurate to suggest…”

Did you notice that reflective writing requires personal language?  Hopefully you also realised that, as much as possible, it is important to minimise the use of the word ‘I’. Instead, use connotation (the emotion or ‘vibe’ of a word) and modality (degree of meaning) to offer your opinions.

Remember a personal review is a critical piece of writing so it is important to write evaluatively.  This involves asking questions and proposing reasoned solutions.

Finally, in many ways a writing a personal reflection is similar to writing a Critical Review. In fact, the planning and writing stages required to produce a successful personal reflection will incorporate many of the steps required for a successful critical review (I have listed these steps below).  Perhaps the main difference between a personal reflection and a critical review is, when writing a personal reflection you focus on how you  interacted with the text and how you  changed as a result. Whereas a critical review focuses on evaluating the usefulness of the text (or a process) in general (or academic) terms.

 

Stages for Writing a Critical Review

1. Identify the audience, purpose

2. Identify the social, historical and/or cultural context

3. Identify the main or ‘controlling’ idea.

4. Identify the main ideas in each paragraph. Jot down notes and record your response  to them.

5. Identify key definitions and question, ‘do I agree?’.

6. Analyse the structure or organisation of the text. Is it clear?

7. Evaluate the controlling and supporting arguments;

i) are they based on assumption, opinion, belief or fact?

ii) how many alternative ways could the argument be considered?

8. Evaluate the evidence;

i) does the author rely on generalisations?

ii) how reliable is the evidence (research, statistics, hearsay)?

iii) is the research current, thorough and properly referenced?

iv) does the evidence relate directly to the main points or controlling idea?

v) have important ideas or facts been ignored?

9. Evaluate the language, is the writing;

i) objective or subjective

ii) personal or impersonal

iii) emotive or rational

iv) concise or convoluted

10.  Final (overall) evaluation

i) Does the composer achieve their purpose?

ii) When, where and by whom could the text be used?

iii) What recommendations could be made to improve the text?

Filed Under: Learning, Writing Tagged With: how do i write a good personal reflection, writing a personal reflection

Mastering the skill of writing an academic paragraph

August 20, 2010 By Nicole Feledy

Mastering the skill of writing an academic paragraph is vital to academic success. The key word here is ‘skill’ since, being a skill, successful paragraph writing can be perfected. This news will obviously come as welcome relief for senior students thrashing about in post trial tempests.

So, how do you write a successful academic essay paragraph? Your first step is to ensure you understand the purpose of a paragraph and then to ensure you have operational knowledge of the structural and language requirements. Then the final, and perhaps most crucial component in mastering the skill of writing an academic paragraph is… practice, practice, practice.

Let me give you a quick analogy; perfecting your ability to write a coherent, relevant academic paragraphs is the same as perfecting your ability to shoot a hoop, kick a goal, run 100m or any other sporting skill you care to mention. Remember writing is a skill. Therefore, regular writing practice will allow you to develop the freedom of expression necessary to convey your thoughts eloquently, critically and cohesively.

 What is the purpose of an academic paragraph? Primarily the purpose of an academic paragraph (which occurs in the body of your essay) is to develop your thesis. Your thesis (which you clearly stated in the introduction of your essay) is your main argument, it is the point you are attempting to prove (and of course is usually your response to the essay question). Therefore, it is vital that your paragraph provides thoughtful analysis, rather than simply recounting a message.

What Language should you use? Although not all academics have the same language expectations, I am sure most will agree a paragraph which employs a cohesive, impersonal style and uses sophisticated vocabulary, tends to convey a critically relevant, credible response. Remember the purpose of your paragraph is to share information. In an academic sense, you are demonstrating to an examiner what you know. You are proving that you understand the content and are able to apply that knowledge while offering an evaluative judgment. Therefore, better academic paragraphs offer

  • Full form words
  • Passive voice
  • Nominalisation
  • Cohesive devises
  • Sophisticated / technical vocabulary

What academic paragraph structure ‘works’? Again, while universal agreement for the structure of an academic paragraph may not be probable, it is possible to offer a formula that improves your chances of addressing the requirements of an essay question. Perhaps another analogy is in order. When we cook a ‘new’ dinner, we often follow a recipe. The function of the recipe is to offer a series of steps and ingredients which, when followed, increase the likelihood of a palatable meal. However, after we have cooked this meal numerous times we begin to develop an understanding of which ingredients are essential and which add ‘flavour’. As our confidence increases, we begin to experiment, adding our own unique touches to construct a variation which offers the critical components of the original, while highlighting our own individual flair. Writing a successful academic paragraph is much the same. First we need to perfect our ability to include the fundamental elements, then we can experiment with expression. A formula I often suggest to my students is;

  • Topic sentence (relates to the thesis / question and the topic of the paragraph)
  • Explain the topic sentence
  • Provide examples, comparisons, quotes and reference to other sources
  • Concluding sentence (highlights why this topic is important to the development of the thesis)

 Remember writing is a skill, the more you write, reflect on and edit your work, the better it will become.

Filed Under: Study Tips, Writing Tagged With: academic sucess, Mastering the skill of writing an academic paragraph, post trial advice, write a sucessful academic essay paragragh

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