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I Can’t Spell

September 23, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

I have a confession to make; I can’t spell and have carried this burden all my life. Primary school was a series of disappointments because I never received ‘spelling’ jelly beans (our teachers rewarded students who spelt their words correctly three weeks in a row). I felt helpless; even when I recognised a word was spelt incorrectly, I couldn’t remember how to re-assemble the letters. To solve the problem, my teachers recommended extensive reading. However, since I was already a book worm who rarely had her nose out of a book, the advice was not helpful.

It wasn’t until many years later that I realized why voracious reading was not an effective way to improve my spelling – I see images rather than individual letters (so those ‘joke’ paragraphs that use a jumbled letter sequence are easy to read). Having identified my problem,  I devised other ways to manage my ‘condition’.

I am vigilant in checking my spelling. I also have a deep empathy with students learning to spell, particularly those who find it challenging. I am open about the fact that I find spelling difficult and ask students to check the spelling of all words I write on the board. My students seem to enjoy the opportunity to ‘correct’ their teacher and actively search my writing for potential mistakes. This demonstrates that I expect  all writing to be checked before it is ‘handed in’.

Now before anyone recoils in horror at a teacher who may make a mistake when writing on the board, I need to state plainly and clearly, I believe spelling is extremely important. To my way of thinking, taking the time to spell correctly and use grammar appropriately (in other words careful proof reading) shows respect. Correct spelling demonstrates respect for your readers and respect for your ideas. It also shows that you respect the rules of your community and perhaps more importantly, it conveys respect for yourself. So, even though I am a poor speller, I am an effective proof reader. This is the skill I model to my classes. I show them it is ok to make mistakes but, it is very important to correct them. When I ask my students to ‘check my spelling’ I am purposefully doing three things.

1 – I am empowering students within the learning situation. I am asking them to help me identify problems in my writing, which I then correct. We follow the same process when checking their writing. This creates a shared learning opportunity – students learn they are an active part of the learning process. Learning is an exchange rather than a one way presentation. Therefore, when I correct their work they view it as an opportunity to improve their writing, rather than seeing it as ‘marking’ or ‘judging’.

2- I am checking student’s level of engagement, if I find a spelling mistake before they do, they know, I know, they have simply copied information from the board without actively participating or thinking about what they are writing. In these cases we discuss the learning process before we progress further.
3. I am modeling the drafting and editing process. This demonstrates to the students who feel dejected about their spelling ability that a spelling problem can be overcome. They learn, when spelling is difficult, I expect them to use a dictionary or the spell checker on their computer, to edit their work.

I encourage my students to write fearlessly. Therefore, first drafts become a creative opportunity for raw thoughts to ‘flow’ onto the page. Then, in subsequent drafts, these ideas can be organized coherently and cohesively. As drafts reach final stages, they need to be proof read for spelling and grammar errors.

In my experience, adopting this approach actually improves student literacy (and spelling). They learn to self correct and, equally importantly, they are not held back from expressing themself. Rather than assuming spelling skills define their ability to write, they learn that creativity and perseverance have a greater influence on the success of their writing. Spelling is a mechanical process that simply requires a writer to check their work. However, magic happens through creating a message which is entertaining, persuasive or informing.

Welcome to a World of Expression

Filed Under: Blog, Learning, Reading Tagged With: checking my spelling, effective way to improve spelling, I cant spell

Authentic Fears and Year 11 Exams

September 16, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

As year 12 faces ‘those’ exams and year 11 approaches the challenge of year 12, both year groups may experience fear. Although fear is an emotion associated with a possible outcome and may be described as false evidence appearing real, there are times when the potential threat is genuine. How do you identify which is which?

One strategy is to look into the fear (rather than turning away) to discover the thought pattern beneath. The next step is recognising the problem and applying reasoning skills to uncover a solution. In many cases, even if the fear doesn’t disappear, it will shrink. The Buffy the Vampire Slayer episode ‘Fear Itself’, offers an entertaining illustration of this concept. The characters learn sometimes it pays to read instructions carefully because threats may not be quite what you expect.

These were the thoughts whirring in my head during a recent conversation with my 17 year old son. He was in the grip of year 11 exam preparation and decided to focus on his future. He soon found himself struggling under the weight of perceived year 12 expectations. My son identified two dominate fears; passing year 12 English and completing his Design and Technology major work. Thankfully, he wanted to talk the problem through. He was willing to explore his inner worlds and expose the thought patterns underneath. Our conversation then turned to possible solutions. The magical outcome of this approach was the opportunity to address a more immediate, yet to be acknowledged fear; a fear of the year 11 exams.

You see, my son had chosen to fear something in the distant future, something he felt as could run from (his initial solution was to drop year 12) rather than facing a more pressing fear. He had unconsciously decided to avoid the threat of year 11 exams. Yet this menace was the most pertinent; it was already in front of him and he felt powerless to do anything about it. He could not run away. So this undefined fear gnawed away at him causing dis-ease. Even though he knew strategies to settle pre-exam nerves, at this point he was finding them difficult to apply. Why?

One answer is a lack of clear direction. My son could not identify an authentic reason for sitting the exams. They were a ‘test’ without a recognisable benefit (unlike a football semi-final which leads to a grand-final).  In his mind year 12 promised more anxiety, so passing year 11 exams would only lead to more stressful situations. It seemed pointless.  Yet, after chatting through the reasons for studying year 12 and addressing concerns about the year 12 English and Design and Technology courses, my son was able to acknowledge his fear of the year 11 exams. He faced it, determined a study strategy and, although still nervous, was able to see a way forward and apply relaxation techniques.

This post has already become a little longer than I intended, however you may be wanting a few more details  as to how my son addressed his fear of year 12 English and year 12 Design and Technology.

First, he faced his fear of English by recognising how to target specific texts by embarking upon a focused study plan. He also remembered he has a strong network of family and friends who will support him whenever he feels  ‘out of his depth’.

He overcame his fear of producing a Design and Technology major work after a brain storming session of possible and exciting product ideas. The anxiety became anticipation when, drawing upon the activities that are consuming my life at the moment, he realised he could apply real world technology to generate interest and funds for his project, post school.

Have you heard of crowd source funding? Crowd source funding refers to the practice of attracting people (crowds) to help fund a project. People pledge money, often in return for beta versions of products, donations on their behalf, or launch party tickets. This money is used to turn a creative idea into a product or service. Crowd funding is also used for charitable events. There are many internet sites devoted to this activity such as Kickstarter and Indiegogo in America or Pozible in Australia.

Although these sites may not be directly applicable to a year 12 student designing a major work, they offered my son a taste of what was possible with a little creative thinking. He could see that activities and lessons completed within school, may reach beyond the school gate. In that moment, school became a step on the path of lifelong learning and his fears, whilst real, had an authentic context. Here they could be examined, explained and eliminated.

Welcome to a World of Expression

Filed Under: Blog, Study Tips Tagged With: Fear of exams, fear of year 11 exams, overcomming exam fear

My Blog is Not Working

September 9, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

My Blog is not working. I write from the heart. I share opinions and offer tips for learning, but it is not enough. My posts do not generate discussions, they do not provoke comments. To be perfectly honest, I don’t even think they are being read by more than a select few. Why?

An internet marketer may criticise my lack of key words and tagging. They may point to the subject material and claim it is not interesting enough and does not solve a problem. Other bloggers may reach into the content and drag out a lack of personal voice or familiar appeal. Perhaps my posts are not sensational enough?

So what next? Write different content, solicit more links, search social networks for places to Pin, Digg and Stumble?  How do I encourage discourse? How do I promote debate and how do I inspire shared dialogue.

This is my dilemma. I write to fulfil a need and, first and foremost, that need is within. I like to take random thoughts from scattered imaginings and arrange them in orderly patterns. I write to make sense of my world. However I also write to free trapped frustrations. I write to scream out against ideas that make no sense (… at least not to me). I write to support and I write to reveal alternative paths.  I write so that readers may question.

But, as I said in the beginning, they don’t.

Do I need to change my reasons for writing? Is it even possible – if I don’t write from the heart, wouldn’t my writing become rote?

I need to find a workable solution. I would like to hear from you.

This post may seem like a self-indulgent, ego fed rant, but that is not my intention. Rather, I write to search for an answer and, I write in an attempt to follow my own advice. When teaching, I suggest the best way to improve writing is to write -write frequently and write regularly. When the writing is reflective, it also serves as a catalyst for fresh ideas. At the very least, writing about a problem helps an author identify the issues.

So, I have concluded I need to do more to find an audience. I am open to suggestions, but I accept the actions will be mine to take. I need to take responsibility for the connections I make and foster relationships from the embers of association. But I will still write from my own story and I will hope my story encourages readers to share theirs.

Oh, and if you do happen to read this, perhaps you could leave a comment below.  What would you like to read about, or why do you write, 0r how do you bring people together?

Welcome to a World of Expression

Filed Under: Blog, Writing Tagged With: a world of expression, My blog is not working, why write, write from the heart, write my story

Be the Author of your Own Life

September 2, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

Why do authors create stories? When I ask a class this question, the first reply is usually a smiling gem – “to make money”. Returning the grin, I ask for more options. The next response, “to entertain”, is usually accompanied by the self-satisfied look of a rote learnt answer. Thankfully, after these ideas have been exhausted, someone (sensing I am looking for more) adds “maybe they want to teach us something”. Then a collective groan rises from a well of ‘here we go again’.

Unfortunately, too many students finish school believing the novels set by their English teacher were a chore to be endured. I have lost count of the number of times adults have said, “I hated reading when I was at school, but when I left and chose my own books, I discovered reading could be fun”.  Within this mindset, potential learning is frequently lost. The question becomes, how do we address the problem? Should teachers choose books which are more interesting or relevant to teen readers (is it even possible to choose a book which will universally appeal to everyone in the class?) or should we be encouraging students to identify the value of reading, even when the story seems ‘boring’.

I tend to believe the latter. It has been my experience that students want to learn how to uncover the personal message each story has for each reader. This is how we build connections. Stories offer ‘us’ the opportunity to escape the constraints of real situations and explore an endless array of possible options. Reading offers ‘me’ the opportunity to travel in a state of objective awareness and play with the conflicting ideas that cross my path. This is how we learn – we learn about environments, we learn about relationships and we learn about motivations. At the most personal level, when we reflect upon our reactions to characters and events, when we question why we feel empathetic, antagonistic or even indifferent, we learn more about ourself.

Of course, reading also provides a platform for learning how to convey ideas in an eloquent, sophisticated and cohesive manner.  Unfortunately, since the acquisition of these skills is easier to validate and ‘test’, English classes may descend into a ‘how the story is told’ tunnel and leave students feeling as though language evaluation, identity of themes and literary appreciation is  an examination fueled, end point. Yet as we know, reading offers so much more. The ‘how the story is told’ tunnel, is simply a passage to a more brightly lit chamber. If a reader continues past the ‘what I need for the exam’ point, to the ‘how I can apply what I have learnt to different situations’ path, they are more likely to perceive reading as a relevant life skill. From here, it is possible to recognise reading as an endless map. Holders of this map have a tool for choosing the direction of their life. In other words, they may apply the skills they have learnt about evaluating someone else’s story, to challenge preconceived perceptions about their own.

Therefore, reading other peoples stories (even if they do not seem ‘interesting’) can teach us how to direct, or ‘write’ our own.  In other words, we do not have to stay within the ‘how the story was told’ tunnel, we can continue forward to the ‘how I learn’ path. This is the author’s rite; you can choose to be the author of your own life, rather than being a character in someone else’s.

Welcome to the World of Expression.

Filed Under: Blog, Reading Tagged With: be the author of your own life rather than a character in someone else's, why do authors create stories

What Do Students Need?

August 21, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

The pollies are at it again, arguing over educational funding in an attempt to build political credit. Perhaps it is time for a garden variety teacher to weigh into the debate. For what it is worth, here is my 2c.

Yes of course schools need more funding. Yes, funding has an enormous impact on a school’s ability to support and enhance learning opportunities. However, rather than debating the amount of money required, I would like to discuss how funds will be dispersed. Perhaps this will provide a tangible framework for directing money to where it is needed most; places where real, functional, outcomes may be achieved.

So, what do students need? What will have most impact?

Smaller class sizes, more facilities – bigger gyms, rows of computers, a smart board in every classroom, more teacher training? Experience at the ‘coal face’ (over 14 years of classroom teaching) suggests, the biggest single determinate of individual student achievement is a little more personal than simply buying ‘things’. Student achievement is enhanced through;

1.    A proactive ‘learning’ mindset
2.    Functional, effective, critical literacy
(and yes, I accept numeracy is also very important)

With a proactive mindset a student has the opportunity to become a self motivated learner who accepts responsibility for the learning process. With base literacy skills and a commitment to developing critical literacy, a student has access to the tools required to become a lifelong learner. With an understanding of the learning process, a learner may increase their cognitive and social agility and flexibility.  In other words, self-motivated learners are confident in their ability to meet the requirements of any given situation because, they have learnt how to learn.

This is what I would like to hear more about when various interest groups start debating funding initiatives and falling educational standards. As a society we need to be more aware of the impact of emotional well being. Active steps must be taken to support and develop emotional resilience. One solution which addresses low motivation and poor self image is the development of emotional, creative and critical literacy skills. When a person feels secure in their communication skills, they are more self assured – they have a voice that will be heard. This has wide ranging impacts for interpersonal interactions and, education (or learning) thrives in situations where there are productive interpersonal interactions.

So, rather than arguing about how much money should be given to whom, rather than suggesting more regulations, rather than more testing and rather than imposing more ways of demonstrating accountability, can we please be proactive. Let’s cure the disease rather than settling for treating the symptoms. Allow teachers time to think, allow students time to recognize the emotions they feel and allow both the time to work cooperatively. Yes, allow time to develop functional, emotional, creative and critical literacy. There are many different strategies for developing these emotional, creative and critical literacy skills – but I will leave that for another time.

Welcome to a World of Expression

Filed Under: Blog, Learning Tagged With: school funding, What do students need

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