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Romeo, Juliet and the Blame Game

May 20, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

Do you accept responsibility for your actions, or do you play the blame game? When things go wrong, as a result of your choices, do you accept accountability or do you blame someone else?

At this point, with year 10 classes in mind, I would like to take a short detour into the world of Romeo and Juliet. Students may recognise my favourite quote, a line delivered by Friar Lawrence,

‘Within the infant rind of this weak flower / poison hath residence and medicine power”

In other words, a situation has the potential to be helpful or unhelpful depending on the choices made. Those who know the play may remember, these lines of dialogue foreshadow the priest’s involvement in the tragic ending of the play. In the final Act, Friar Lawrence accepts responsibility for his actions. He admits he married the couple in secret. He admits he gave Juliet a sleeping potion (so she could avoid marriage to Paris). He admits he failed in his efforts to contact Romeo (so Romeo did not know Juliet was in a death-like sleep). Nevertheless, audiences (and the Prince) accept Friar Lawrence’s actions were motivated by peace and love. However, even though his intentions were pure, the outcomes were not as he intended. The waring families may have buried their hate, unfortunately the cost was higher than Friar Lawrence, Romeo or Juliet ever imagined.

You may be wondering how this reference to literature relates you.

The answer to this question is best found within your Self. What message about choice, consequence and responsibility will you take from this example?

Do you recognise the times where, even though your intentions were good and you planned a particular outcome, circumstances delivered a different result? Importantly, at these times, are you willing to accept responsibility for your actions?

Filed Under: Blog, Learning, Self Esteem Tagged With: accept responsibility, blame game, choice and consequence, Romeo and Juliet

What Determines Student Success?

May 13, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

If asked to search for an answer to the question; what is the most reliable determinant of a student’s future success, where would you look? Would you, go to google, read a book, question your teachers, ask your parents, or chat with friends?

Last week I attended a course, based on the Positive Psychology research of Martin Seligman. The facilitator, Dr Toni Noble, demonstrated the benefits of positive psychology practices in the classroom. This highly practical course provided participants with useful strategies that have direct relevance in the classroom. It was clear to all of us, that the research supported what we already knew – a student’s overall feeling of ‘wellness’ has a direct impact on their success at school. Put simply, happy students, who feel valued and supported by the school community are more likely to succeed than students who feel marginalised and lonely.

The question then becomes – how do we support and nurture young people so they may experience wellness rather than dis-ease? Professional development courses which provide teachers with functional, tangible tools to help young people recognise emotions and foster cooperative social behaviours, are a positive start. Of course we need to provide schools which are a safe haven filled with encouragement and opportunity.

However equally important is a student’s choice to participate. In fact, as individuals within a school and wider community, we need to be mindful of mindset. We need to ask ourself  – how willing are we to take responsibility for our own feelings and behaviours? We need to encourage young people to do the same.

Therefore as useful as google, books, teachers, parents and friends may be, when we want to search for answers, perhaps it is equally important to ask questions of ourself.

So maybe what I should have asked at the beginning of this post was… have you ever asked yourself, what determines MY success?

If I were to answer this question, I would reply, ME.

How will you respond?

Filed Under: Blog, Learning, Self Esteem Tagged With: students future success, take responsibility, What determines student success

Critical Literacy: A Learning ‘Rite’

May 6, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

We tell ourselves stories all the time. We tell ourselves stories in an attempt to make sense of our world. We tell stories about our life and what we deserve. We tell stories to explain our actions. Yet how often do we consciously examine those stories?  

 How effectively do we evaluate the stories we’re told?

 Years of teaching have taught me that the most useful aspect of stories is  not necessarily their literary merit, but rather the opportunity they provide to  teach us.

 Stories may be seen as life’s metaphors.

 The study of English therefore, can be the study of experiences. Through  stories it is possible to enter a new world and participate from a protected  position so that, when a character learns, we learn.

Certainly it is important to live and be aware in our present. However, as we analyse the characters in a story and critically evaluate the strategies they employ to overcome complications, we gain a fresh perspective of our own situation.

If we are mindful of language we may also begin to perceive some innovative solutions.

In this case, readers become critical literate individuals who recognise choices have consequences and we are responsible for our behaviour. In other words the study of other peoples stories, offers an opportunity to practise the evaluative skills that can help us understand the stories we tell our self.

The stories we tell have the power to limit or enrich our life. However, critically evaluating those stories encourages us to propose questions and discover answers. I like to call this process the Critical Literacy Rite.

 

Welcome to a World of Expression

Filed Under: Blog, Learning Tagged With: critical literacy, mindful of language, stories

How Do I Manage Examination Stress

March 25, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

Stress can be destructive, it can leave suffers feeling unmotivated, demoralised and frustrated. So why do schools continually place teenagers in stressful situations without offering the tools to manage examination stress.

Many year 12 students from NSW are approaching mid- year examinations; most are probably experiencing varying degrees of trepidation and anxiety. However, some are feeling anticipation and excitement. How do you feel right now?

Your emotional response to upcoming exams is likely to reflect the degree to which you feel prepared for your examinations. When a person is placed in a confronting situation their emotional and physical response usually varies according to their perceived ability to manage and respond to the conditions. Therefore, in simple terms, if a person believes they have a measure of control over the resources required to overcome a challenge and they know where and how to access those resources, they are more likely to approach the situation with a confident attitude.

As a result, a student who understands the course content, is aware of the specific knowledge required to complete the examination and is familiar with examination structure, usually feels better equipped and more enthusiastic toward their examination, than a student who has not understood course material and has little familiarity with examination expectations.

While you nod in agreement and think, ‘yes of course, it is obvious that students need to prepare academically for their exams’, have you also recognised that academic preparation is only part of the preparatory process. Content and skills based preparation is the portion that most schools acknowledge responsibility for and thus, is where most time and resources are directed. However an equally crucial component is mindset preparation.

Stressful situations could be described as a natural part of life. Certainly they are a common occurrence and often unpredictable. Therefore it is not always easy to ensure we have the necessary knowledge and skills to meet the expectations of a particular challenge. Nevertheless, it is possible to maintain control of our emotional response to a situation. In large measure a student’s ability to approach examinations with anticipation and excitement depends on their attitude toward judgement and failure. This is the area where many schools do not support their students.

A large number of students develop the belief that tests and examinations are a measurement of their ‘worth’. They harbor the notion that their entire future is dependent upon a few hours spent inside a school hall hunched over a piece paper on a small desk. It is little wonder these students view examination with fear and resentment. Nevertheless, schools can help students discover a more helpful attitude toward examinations.

As a teacher, I believe it is my responsibility to offer teenagers mechanisms to manage stress; to teach them specific strategies to channel and / or alleviate it. One such strategy is demonstrating an alternate perspective toward examinations.

Examinations evaluate what you know, not who you are. They offer a snapshot of your knowledge level at a particular point in time, not of all time. They are simply a guide or channel which directs subsequent learning. However to truly appreciate this sentiment, it is also worth challenging popular impressions of failure. Failure is not an end point, nor does it prophesise the future; failure is a signal. It is a sign to change, a suggestion to move in a different direction or to adopt a new strategy.

At this point one of the more common analogies offered is how Thomas Edison failed thousands of times before he created a working light bulb. While you think about that, also reflect on your own experiences. Recall other learning situations. Although you may not remember details, consider how you learnt to walk. You probably dragged yourself up, cruised around holding on to furniture spending a lot of time on your bottom as you failed to navigate between one handhold and another. Yet, with each failure, you were testing new approaches, you were strengthening your muscles and your muscles were learning what was required of them. Each failure became an opportunity to learn.

Hopefully this example has illuminated an approach to examinations. Of course it is important to ensure you understand the required content and skills. However it is equally important to walk confidently toward your examinations. Use the handholds provided by your teachers. Have a clear vision of where you want to go and cruise around – practise, practise, practise. Then, when the space in front of you is open, draw upon your own muscle strength and stride forward. If you fall, pick yourself back up, think about what you have learnt and keep moving toward the place you chose as the next respite position.

Stress does not have to be destructive; it can be managed. Examinations can be viewed with enthusiasm; they can become a practice field. Schools can encourage students to develop a proactive attitude toward failure. Students can learn how to approach confronting situations with confidence and courage. This is the mindful state of a learner who knows they can learn.

Filed Under: Learning Tagged With: examinations, how do I manage examination stress, manage examination stress

The HSC is Almost Here – Are You Motivated to Study?

September 26, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

The sun is shining, cicadas chirp summer’s song and the sweet scent of frangipani mingles with the salt air. Summer beckons and you realise the HSC is almost here.  Are you motivated to study or do you;

A)     Grab your surf board and head down to the beach?

B)      Reach for a towel and head down to the pool?

C)      Shove your wallet into your pocket and hit the shops?

D)     Bury your head under a pillow and wish it was tommorow?

Ok, so perhaps none of those options appeal. Perhaps you leap out of bed, land at your desk and fire up the computer ready for a day sitting in front of a screen chatting to friends or playing games.

Or, just maybe, you are geared up, energised and motivated for a couple of hours study.

Regardless of which option you would choose, which option would you like to choose and, importantly, do you realise it is your choice to make?

Can you imagine being motivated to study? Do you think being motivated to study would make studying easier, learning fun and remembering a naturally occurring process?

Sound like a dream? Is it a dream you would like to live?

Hopefully you are intrigued because intrigued is a good place to start. From this place of curiosity it is possible to find a reason to want to know more. When you want to know more, you have a reason to study. Once you have a reason to study (one you value) the motivation to study naturally follows. When you want to study, and when you believe that study can help you can achieve your dream, you will enjoy the process of studying. And, as you know, when your emotions are positively engaged, you remember.   

So, what are you curious about? What do you want to know? Write a list; be imaginative and allow your mind the freedom to dream up whatever questions it likes. The aim here is to allow yourself to believe you can learn about anything you want.

Now take a serious look at your list. Can you see any links to the subjects you study? These links may not seem obvious at first; however as you allow yourself flexibility of thinking you may start to notice a pattern. Use arrows, circles and coloured pens to take note of places where your curiosity intersects with your subjects. The links will be there, even if you need to use some lateral thinking to recognise them. For example you may want to know more about how to make money. This could link to Business Studies or Economics. You may want to know how to communicate more effectively with girls /boys. Can you can see a link to English (or the themes in your prescribed texts).   Do you want to improve your skill at a particular sport? Maybe you can find a link to Biology or Physics.

This exercise aims to teach you something about your own interests, values and motivations. It is simply a slightly different way of identifying a study goal. You may even find yourself discovering a path which will lead you to a university or career choice. It is important to write down what you are thinking so that you accept this is a commitment you make to yourself. You may like to write commitment statements such as I will study ________ because I know it will help me on my path to learn how to _____________.

Be flexible in your thinking and happy to accept that some of the links are likely to be a stretch. This is a good thing because it will help you realise that sometimes, even if the benefits of a particular process or event are not obvious, with imagination and determination you can find a reason to delay immediate gratification. This is possible when you are willing to trust that the work you do now will yield rewards in the future. So even if learning ‘how a sense of belonging is conveyed in your prescribed text’ may not seem useful now, your study can create a knowledge and skill base which is likely to be useful when you need to develop a cohesive team environment later.

Begin to imagine the exams are simply a step to be climbed as you walk determinedly toward finding answers to your own questions and studywill become personally relevant.

Filed Under: Learning, Study Tips Tagged With: are you motivated to study, HSC study motivation, motivated to study

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