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How People Think

December 29, 2010 By Nicole Feledy

Have you ever contemplated how people think? Can we ever really know how  people think? I finished reading The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, jumped into the shower and while the water relaxed and cleansed, my mind drifted. I enjoyed the book, although not as much as the reviews had me believe I should. Larsson has been described as offering an “original heroine”, and a “gripping plot”. I confess, crime fiction is not my usual choice so my credentials when it comes to judging the literary merit of the novel are somewhat dubious. However I was interested in why the Millennium series was so popular – and yes I do intend to read the other two books before forming an opinion. Nevertheless, initial musings suggested to me that readers are either drawn to the investigative or problem solving aspects of the prose, or they are compelled by a desire to understand the characters and their relationships.

Personally, I was not really intrigued by the mystery that is Lisbeth Salander or the search for the missing Harriet Vanger. Or, perhaps what I should say is that I did not recognise a thrilling plot, nor an overly unique heroine. Yet since that is what reviews led me to expect, I wondered what it was that I was missing? But then as I considered the character of Lisbeth Salander an interesting thought formed from the swirling mass of electronic impulses – can we ever really know how another person thinks or how they actually process the information presented to them to form an opinion?

Of course we can study the brain and its functions and we can interview, counsel and examine people’s reactions to various stimuli. We can listen to or read their opinions, beliefs and hear their explanation of their thought process. We can watch or have described to us, their emotional responses. However at all times, we are processing the information through our own set of filters, through our own understandings and, we are probably taking the internal workings of our brain for granted. After all, it is all we have every really known.

Yes we can be empathetic and ‘imagine’ how another person may be feeling or what they may be thinking and we can even hypothesise why they feel or think that way. Yet, we will still be computing the information using our own operating systems and we have no way (at least to my knowledge) of really knowing how truly compatible our systems are. Yes of course we can gauge similarities and determine harmonious or discordant patterns. In most cases we use this information to determine friend or foe. But, do we ever really, truly share the exact same thinking methodology? I think not, and, while that explains why personal relationships suffer from miss-communication it is also what adds flavour and excitement to them.

I believe the key is to accept that we each use our own unique operating systems that while comparable with others of our species, are not truly compatible (much like a PC and a Mac). When we acknowledge that our thought processes are unique we are more likely to understand that others naturally have their own unique thoughts and as such are as entitled to their ideas as we are. As a result we can begin to appreciate the voice of the philosopher Rumi who offered the idea, “out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing is a field, I will meet you there”.

 However, in light of some of the disturbing thought process exhibited by the certain characters in Larsson’s story I do feel compelled to point out that just because we can acknowledge the right of the individual to think their own thoughts, this does not necessarily mean we can draw a direct parallel to the actions of individuals. This is where the waters become murky as some are tempted to use the ‘rights of the individual’ theories as justification for dubious or even downright heinous activities. It is here that the notion of ‘values’ or ‘ethics’ becomes essential downloadable ‘shareware’. In other words, in order for individuals to live within a system (or society) there must exist a series of shared, acceptable, behavioural patterns that recognise an individual’s accountability for their actions and the responsibility to not impinge upon the emotional, intellectual or physical safety of others.

Stories such as The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo offer readers insight into the thought processes and motivations of individuals on the fringes of society, outside it, at the top and bottom of it, while also sharing the actions and thoughts of the psychopath. Perhaps this is where its popularity lies. The intriguing aspect for me, is the recognition of just how differently we think. In fact, I wonder, as you read this, what you will focus on and what message you will take away?  How close will it be to the ideas I intended to convey?

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Why Blog

July 21, 2010 By Nicole Feledy

As it is currently taught in NSW schools, the study of English may be divided into two main areas; the study of literature (texts) and the study of language.

The study of literature requires a student’s response to what they have read, viewed and listened to. It involves identifying textual themes or messages and relating them to personal experience, interpretations of the world as well as evaluating a text’s contribution to a greater understanding of society.

The study of language requires a student to understand how a message is conveyed. Paradoxically, even though this may be the easier aspect of English study to master, it is often the area where students struggle most. Perhaps this is because the study of language is largely the study of processes. It is essentially remembering a set of rules and gaining mastery over a series of skills. As such, the successful study of English language may be likened to attaining success in areas such as sport, music or dance. In this way, being a competent English student requires commitment, perseverance and determination. A student must want to improve their skills. They must be prepared to expend the effort required to perfect their ability to use those skills. Of course, they must also be provided with, or taught, the ‘rules of the game’ and systems underpinning the mastery of those skills.

This is the GOOD news! A student may improve their English grades simply by improving their understanding of the processes involved in creating meaning from letters, words, sound and images. This may be achieved by learning the rules or systems involved in the creation of texts, and then practice, practice, practice. Students must practice these skills. Practice is the key to unlocking the secret of successful English study. As is the case in areas such as sport or music,  essential aspects of this practice are drills, training and coaching.

There is a magical by-product which occurs from understanding the way language works; a student is better able to understand textual themes. Importantly it also provides students with a checklist for evaluating the success of a piece of literature. In other words,  a mastery of English language usually provides a solid platform for a greater appreciation of English literature.

The aim of keeping an English blog is to provide you with an approach for improving your study of English. In essence it provides a highly visible opportunity for you to practice your language, analysis and evaluative skills

 Welcome to a world of expression.

Filed Under: Learning, Writing Tagged With: improve English grades, is this my story, nic feledy, why blog

Attitudes and Effective Leadership

July 13, 2010 By Nicole Feledy

What does it take to be a successful leader? Defining the essential features of effective leadership is not always simple. Often the characteristics which denote ‘successful’ leadership in one situation are not same as the qualities required in a different situation. Yet the development of effective leadership skills is important for both personal and interpersonal growth.

 At a personal level, developing an understanding of the skills required to ‘lead’ enhances your ability to achieve goals. Put simply, you lead yourself by setting yourself a goal and motivating yourself to attain that goal.

At an interpersonal level, developing an understanding of the skills required to ‘lead’, enhances your ability to interact with others. In other words if you are appointed to a leadership role you will understand the confidence, creativity and vision required to establish a common purpose and  the cooperation and communication skills required to work collaboratively with others to achieve a common purpose.

 Importantly, effective leaders lead by example and generally do more than they require of their followers. This is aptly illustrated in the scene from the movie Remember the Titans where Julius tells Gary “attitude reflects leadership”.

 

  1. Who do you consider to be an effective leader?
  2. Which of their leadership qualities do you admire most?

Filed Under: Self Esteem Tagged With: effective leaders, effective leadership, is this my story, mystory, nic feledy

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