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Love to Learn or Learn to Love It

August 12, 2012 By Nicole Feledy

I  love to learn, yes I admit it, being in an active learning situation sends waves of wonder dancing through my consciousness. Like a jolt of pure energy it provides an invigorating buzz, motivating me to … well … learn more. How do you feel about learning?

It could be suggested that a person’s attitude toward learning is influenced by their experience of learning. Those who have had positive experiences of learning, those who are able to solve problems as a result of their learning and those for whom learning offers a recognizable reward, tend to view learning as a useful endeavor. Learning can be directly applied so it is valued. However, in different situations, the opposite may be the case. Learning may become meaningless and ‘boring’ because it is too far removed from a learners experience or it is a repetitive reproduction of someone else’s ideas.

From this perspective, one of the potentially devastating impacts of school is the numbing, or in some cases downright destruction of an individual’s love of learning. This demise may come from a number of sources. A love of learning may be murdered by peers who preach the mantra that learning is ‘uncool’. Perhaps worse, a love learning may be annihilated by apathy or destroyed by a belief that it is not worth the effort. In other words, if learning is perceived as irrelevant or difficult, it tends to drown in a grey sea of discontent.

Usually teachers are handed the responsibility for inspiring learning. They are expected to deliver content in a manner that will engage and motivate their students. Teachers are trained to address multiple learning styles and offer opportunities for the meaningful application of knowledge. Yet it it is equally important for the learner to accept responsibility for their learning. The old expression ‘you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink’ has some relevance here. Put simply, a learner’s mindset has an enormous impact on the learning situation. Learners who choose to learn, have a massive advantage over those who learn to avoid punishment or gain reward.

I believe I am constantly learning because I choose to be constantly learning. I want to learn simply for the sake of learning. As a result, every situation and every interaction becomes an opportunity to discover something new. The advantage of this mindset is that even if material is delivered in a manner I find confusing or boring, I can look beyond the emotion and find a fresh idea. So, next time you find yourself wondering if you can justify the time and effort it will take to acquire that new skill or thought, perhaps you could look beyond the immediate benefit (or lack thereof) to the wider implications. Learning is an adventure, it is a quest – it is life’s rite. So don’t allow others to take wonder of discovery from you. Take control of your learning and be responsibility for, and to, yourself.

Filed Under: Blog, Learning Tagged With: Learning, love to learn

Friendship; A Powerful Learning Tool

July 17, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

Catching up with friends is an energy boost for the head and heart. Our friends have the capacity to inspire, motivate and soothe because infused within the bonds of friendship is the recognition of shared experiences and complimentary beliefs. Since friends are the people we trust, we can relax in their company and enjoy the moment. It is within this mindful state that confidence, creativity and innovation flourish. Recently I was lucky enough to reconnect with an old school friend who I had not seen or spoken to for over 10 years. Over coffee we shared recent pasts, reminisced over shared histories and contemplated the future. We investigated ideas and examined social assumptions. In other words we chatted for hours, entertaining our hearts and invigorating our minds. The challenge for schools is to recognise and harness this form of energy.

Imagine learning the skills that will lay a foundational mindset which will enable you to accomplish whatever it is that you set out to accomplish. Too often when we are at school we forget that this potent energy force may be channelled equally into social and academic endeavours. The simplest and most tangible example which comes to mind is the ‘study group’. When conceived within a similar mindset to that of the corporate world’s ‘mastermind group’, the study group becomes a powerful vehicle for blending and creating critical thought processes.

Too often schools are viewed as institutions responsible for the dissemination of knowledge. Teachers teach, students learn and knowledge is restricted to what can be ‘remembered’ and regurgitated in a test. However, in reality schools should be the hub where young people gather the tools they need for their future. Today, content information is easily accessed by those who have the skills required to find it. More importantly, understanding or ‘knowledge’, is available to those who have developed the skills of critical analysis and critical thinking. Thus, it is not ‘knowledge’ which is the key, but ‘aptitude’. What must be remembered is that this is not a ‘new’ feature of 21st century living. Rather, it is a principle that has existed for a very, very long time.

This was made blaringly apparent to me when, stimulated after chatting with a friend, I reflected on my own school days. I realised that some classmates who did not ‘succeed’ in school, did succeed in life. Conversely, some who achieved at school have not achieved the same pre-eminence in the ‘real world’. Of course, some who were successful at school have achieved in life and some who struggled, have continued to struggle. The obvious message here is that ‘success’ or ‘failure’ at a school, in particularly the ability to perform in school examinations, does not provide a direct correlation to an individual’s ability to ‘perform’ in life. Rather, what does have an impact is ‘mindset’. Attributes such as creativity, flexibility and courage, when combined with qualities such as determination, persistence and critical thinking, merge to promote constructive thinking programmes. In other words those who have a proactive mindset are more likely to achieve what they set out to achieve than those who simply wait for opportunities to come to them.

Schools have the opportunity to help students develop these opportunistic thought processes because schools are places where friends gather, information is shared and ideas are generated. You may like to envisage a scholastic ‘coffee club’ or ‘study mastermind union’. In this case you will find yourself recognising that moments shared with friends are powerful moments and if you were to harness this energy imagine what you could achieve.

Filed Under: Learning Tagged With: friends, friendship a powerful learning tool, Learning

Why We Must Teach Digital Literacy

June 19, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

We all know that the educational needs and values of 21st century learners are vastly different to the industrial model offered in most Australian schools. This is based on the belief that the literacy skills and understandings required to survive in a modern digital world involve so much more than an ability to discern meaning from words printed on a page. Similarly, we recognise that in age where information is literally at our fingertip, the learning process is often more relevant than the learning of content. As Howard Gardner points out in his 5 Minds for the Future, today’s learners need to develop the ability to think in a disciplined, synergetic and creative way which is both respectful and ethical.

The video below is 55minutes long, however it is worth watching. It offers an encouraging insight into a future for all schools. I sincerely hope that those busily developing our National Curriculum remember to put opportunities in front of our students, instead of ego-centric hierarchical bureaucracy.

Digital Media – New Learners of the 21st Century

Filed Under: Learning Tagged With: Digital learners in the 21st century, Learning

Making the Most of Ritual

December 28, 2010 By Nicole Feledy

A ‘ritual’ allows us to connect abstract feelings or thoughts (from our inner world) to tangible actions that can be physically experienced (in our outer world). This is as simple as linking an action to a belief or emotion. In creating a bond between something that was intangible to another tangible ‘thing’ it is possible to make the insubstantial seem substantial. The benefit is that once the thought or idea can be physically seen, heard or felt, it becomes ‘real’ and thus able to be directed. Thus, the advantage of these bonds is that they cement habits into routines that allow for the synchronistic achievements of goals. This occurs because ritual provides a way to link a concept to a reality in the same way that a metaphor allows us to understand an abstract idea. Talking or looking at a concept does not always make it real – yet linking it to a ritual allows us to experience a physical occurrence that enhances a learning experience. An example will make this clearer.

Imagine preparing to study by following a series of steps which focuses the mind and alerts the unconscious that learning is about to take place. How much more do you think you will remember when your study is personally relevant and enjoyable? This is achievable when you link the intangible emotions of happiness and significance to the reading and writing that is about to take place. So, how can you make emotions a physical entity? One obvious method is through music. Think about it – how often do you hear a song that instantly transports you back to a specific time you heard that song. Typically this happens because you heard the song during an important or meaningful experience and you bond the song to the feelings and thoughts surrounding the event. We can use this to our advantage by deliberately and repetitively listening to a specific song whilst engaged in an activity that is motivational, enjoyable and relevant. Soon, the song will be linked to those feelings of happiness and enthusiasm. Thus, whenever the song is played, those emotions will be experienced. Now, imagine always playing that song before you prepare for exams. Can you see yourself associating the feelings elicited by the song to study? As a result, you will begin  to perceive study as fun and relevant.

Another way to use the concept of ‘ritual’ in a practical habit forming manner is to link a desirable activity to a less desirable one, for example you may choose to write a 150 word education related blog post before you log on to facebook in the evening. Of course, the key is to perform the ritual each time without exception. In order to ensure your success you should keep the individual sections of a ritual achievable and meaningful.

Finally, ritual provides the opportunity to develop a sense that there is a force beyond ourselves. Without believing in a force beyond what we physically see it is difficult to link with our unconscious or to that which replenishes and gives us a sense of worth. For example we can begin to recognise and appreciate what we have by initiating a morning ritual which involves identifying three things we feel grateful for. This simple, positive exercise can transform the way you approach your day and encourage constructive, optimistic relationships.

 What rituals can you begin today?

Filed Under: Learning Tagged With: Learning, linking a belief to an action, making the most of ritual, ritual, rituals and study, study

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