A ‘ritual’ allows us to connect abstract feelings or thoughts (from our inner world) to tangible actions that can be physically experienced (in our outer world). This is as simple as linking an action to a belief or emotion. In creating a bond between something that was intangible to another tangible ‘thing’ it is possible to make the insubstantial seem substantial. The benefit is that once the thought or idea can be physically seen, heard or felt, it becomes ‘real’ and thus able to be directed. Thus, the advantage of these bonds is that they cement habits into routines that allow for the synchronistic achievements of goals. This occurs because ritual provides a way to link a concept to a reality in the same way that a metaphor allows us to understand an abstract idea. Talking or looking at a concept does not always make it real – yet linking it to a ritual allows us to experience a physical occurrence that enhances a learning experience. An example will make this clearer.

Imagine preparing to study by following a series of steps which focuses the mind and alerts the unconscious that learning is about to take place. How much more do you think you will remember when your study is personally relevant and enjoyable? This is achievable when you link the intangible emotions of happiness and significance to the reading and writing that is about to take place. So, how can you make emotions a physical entity? One obvious method is through music. Think about it – how often do you hear a song that instantly transports you back to a specific time you heard that song. Typically this happens because you heard the song during an important or meaningful experience and you bond the song to the feelings and thoughts surrounding the event. We can use this to our advantage by deliberately and repetitively listening to a specific song whilst engaged in an activity that is motivational, enjoyable and relevant. Soon, the song will be linked to those feelings of happiness and enthusiasm. Thus, whenever the song is played, those emotions will be experienced. Now, imagine always playing that song before you prepare for exams. Can you see yourself associating the feelings elicited by the song to study? As a result, you will begin  to perceive study as fun and relevant.

Another way to use the concept of ‘ritual’ in a practical habit forming manner is to link a desirable activity to a less desirable one, for example you may choose to write a 150 word education related blog post before you log on to facebook in the evening. Of course, the key is to perform the ritual each time without exception. In order to ensure your success you should keep the individual sections of a ritual achievable and meaningful.

Finally, ritual provides the opportunity to develop a sense that there is a force beyond ourselves. Without believing in a force beyond what we physically see it is difficult to link with our unconscious or to that which replenishes and gives us a sense of worth. For example we can begin to recognise and appreciate what we have by initiating a morning ritual which involves identifying three things we feel grateful for. This simple, positive exercise can transform the way you approach your day and encourage constructive, optimistic relationships.

 What rituals can you begin today?