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Teachers Empower and Support Students

October 19, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

Teachers need to empower students. Teachers need to support students so that they can develop their own voices and create meaningful legacies. This is the central message delivered by Alan November (an educator who seems to know what he is talking about).

In the video clip below he explains the role of technology and the importance of critical literacy. He offers a window to a model of inspiration led teaching; and he delivers his message through stories. Brilliant!

Let’s hope that those developing Australia’s National Curriculum take note of the needs of today’s students rather than the egos of yesterday’s bureaucrats.

Students must be supported and taught as they interact with the world they live in. Critical literacy is a key that will open the door.

Filed Under: Blog, Teaching Tagged With: Alan November, needs of todays students, Teachers empower and support students

Looking Out the Window to a Fresh Perspective

October 2, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

When I am stuck, when I can’t think what to say or write next, I look out the window. At a tangible level looking out the window offers a fresh perspective; a different scene to that which plays out on the computer screen, an alternative horizon to the conjured image of restricting room walls. On a conceptual plane, gazing out the window reminds me to get out of my own head space and be aware of the sights, sounds and sensations around me. Looking out the window offers me the opportunity to regain control of my thought processes and their commanding emotions. It is a gentle reminder to be, rather than expecting to be.

Today, I look out the window to a river that shimmers a deep azure blue and mountains which reach towards cotton ball clouds. It is a peaceful, colourful kaleidoscope and as I look through the lens I recognise the relationship between the river and the internal forces which drive me to write. I notice how the wind blows ripples across the surface, while the pulling tide steers the deeper water in a different direction. These two forces seem to struggle in opposition and the water swirls in confused eddies like small circles of discontent. Is this why I write? Do I seek solace from the conflicting forces which whirl within?

Perhaps.

I know that writing soothes me. I know that the thoughts and emotions lodged deep within crave creative outlet. They long to skim across a carefree surface, frolicking  alongside the winds call. So I write what I feel and as the ideas are pulled from the hidden depths, they lighten and begin to glimmer. They reflect the glow of open space and dance a circling pirouette.

My perspective changes. Now as I look to the river, watching its currents, the circling eddies appear to be a gleeful cooperation between the forces above and below. The window has fulfilled its obligation. It reminded me that I have a choice. I can look at the scene in front of me and choose to see restless conflict, or I can perceive the synergetic collaboration.   

This is the value of perspective; the message of the Window. When we are willing to recognise that the same event or image may be viewed from a more than one angle, we begin to take control of the direction of our thoughts. This is not a matter of simply ‘looking for the positive’. Rather it is a choice to be aware of ourself within a wider context and to recognise we have the power to write our own story.

Ahhh, now I am ready to keep writing my book. I have almost finished and I hope readers of this blog will enjoy the tale I have to tell.

 

Filed Under: Self Esteem, Writing Tagged With: choosing a perspective, fresh perspective, Looking out the window

The HSC is Almost Here – Are You Motivated to Study?

September 26, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

The sun is shining, cicadas chirp summer’s song and the sweet scent of frangipani mingles with the salt air. Summer beckons and you realise the HSC is almost here.  Are you motivated to study or do you;

A)     Grab your surf board and head down to the beach?

B)      Reach for a towel and head down to the pool?

C)      Shove your wallet into your pocket and hit the shops?

D)     Bury your head under a pillow and wish it was tommorow?

Ok, so perhaps none of those options appeal. Perhaps you leap out of bed, land at your desk and fire up the computer ready for a day sitting in front of a screen chatting to friends or playing games.

Or, just maybe, you are geared up, energised and motivated for a couple of hours study.

Regardless of which option you would choose, which option would you like to choose and, importantly, do you realise it is your choice to make?

Can you imagine being motivated to study? Do you think being motivated to study would make studying easier, learning fun and remembering a naturally occurring process?

Sound like a dream? Is it a dream you would like to live?

Hopefully you are intrigued because intrigued is a good place to start. From this place of curiosity it is possible to find a reason to want to know more. When you want to know more, you have a reason to study. Once you have a reason to study (one you value) the motivation to study naturally follows. When you want to study, and when you believe that study can help you can achieve your dream, you will enjoy the process of studying. And, as you know, when your emotions are positively engaged, you remember.   

So, what are you curious about? What do you want to know? Write a list; be imaginative and allow your mind the freedom to dream up whatever questions it likes. The aim here is to allow yourself to believe you can learn about anything you want.

Now take a serious look at your list. Can you see any links to the subjects you study? These links may not seem obvious at first; however as you allow yourself flexibility of thinking you may start to notice a pattern. Use arrows, circles and coloured pens to take note of places where your curiosity intersects with your subjects. The links will be there, even if you need to use some lateral thinking to recognise them. For example you may want to know more about how to make money. This could link to Business Studies or Economics. You may want to know how to communicate more effectively with girls /boys. Can you can see a link to English (or the themes in your prescribed texts).   Do you want to improve your skill at a particular sport? Maybe you can find a link to Biology or Physics.

This exercise aims to teach you something about your own interests, values and motivations. It is simply a slightly different way of identifying a study goal. You may even find yourself discovering a path which will lead you to a university or career choice. It is important to write down what you are thinking so that you accept this is a commitment you make to yourself. You may like to write commitment statements such as I will study ________ because I know it will help me on my path to learn how to _____________.

Be flexible in your thinking and happy to accept that some of the links are likely to be a stretch. This is a good thing because it will help you realise that sometimes, even if the benefits of a particular process or event are not obvious, with imagination and determination you can find a reason to delay immediate gratification. This is possible when you are willing to trust that the work you do now will yield rewards in the future. So even if learning ‘how a sense of belonging is conveyed in your prescribed text’ may not seem useful now, your study can create a knowledge and skill base which is likely to be useful when you need to develop a cohesive team environment later.

Begin to imagine the exams are simply a step to be climbed as you walk determinedly toward finding answers to your own questions and studywill become personally relevant.

Filed Under: Learning, Study Tips Tagged With: are you motivated to study, HSC study motivation, motivated to study

Lost Love

September 18, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

I believe love is one of those bitter sweet states of being that both rewards and plagues us all. Lost love, or love which is not returned can be agonising. However, as with any thought or emotion, when we allow the feeling, experience it and  let it go, it becomes an experience, rather than a force which dictates our actions. The key is to let go rather than wallowing in self recriminations or riding the blame carousel. The pain, as hurtful as it is, will subside as long as we allow it to pass through rather than holding it within. Of course, this is not easy. Emotional pain does ‘hurt’, yet the pain will fade if we allow it to.

A rather gross analogy is to imagine what would happen if you kept picking at a scab on your arm. It would bleed, and then another scab would form. However if you kept picking at the scab, the blemish would grow and eventually leave a nasty scar.

To prevent scaring, change focus. Mindfulness and reading inspirational material can help (a book I can thoroughly recommend is The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho).  The aim is not to distract, but rather to open our eyes to a different perspective. To recognise we have a choice and we can choose to learn. We can recognise and choose our emotions, rather than giving them control over us.  

Finally, the ancient poet/philosopher Rumi suggested,

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

Filed Under: Self Esteem Tagged With: allowing emotions, Lost love

To the Class of 2011

September 11, 2011 By Nicole Feledy

It is that time of year for senior students. Year 12 have completed their trial exams and a groundswell of excitement begins to build as the realisation dawns that only a few short weeks stand between them and a life beyond school walls. Of course, this excitement is tainted with a hefty dose anxiety as the spectre of the HSC reaches out its gnarly fingers to inspire simultaneous awe and angst. The overwhelming urge to celebrate the end of school begins to war with a nostalgic need to remember.

While some scramble to uncover those last few marks, many more reach for lingering memories; memories that will sustain them through the tumultuous weeks of revision ahead. Of course the objective is to remember the countless hours spent in class and at home, devouring text books, discussing ideas and writing wads of notes while in the pursuit of content and skills. However, at this time, in these last few weeks, these are not the memories of solace. Rather, the memories which are being squirreled away are those of friendship.

I once heard it said that people who claimed their ‘best years of life were at school’ had wasted their dreams. While this may the case, I still believe that some of my ‘best’ weeks occurred in the dying days of school. It was then that petty jealousy and competition was abandoned. As a collective force we realised that we were about to face one of the biggest challenges life had thrown at us thus far. We approached a future where even if we knew what we wanted, we were unsure if we would get it. But we knew we faced it together, a united cohort filled with faces we had seen almost every day for the past six, sometimes even 12 years (and remember, at age 17, that accounted for one or two thirds of our entire lives).

Familiarity brings with it its own sense of reassurance. So, in those last weeks of school we sought and traded memories; memories of that party, this excursion and those canteen specials. We wrote in each other’s year books, on shirts and on tunics. We wrote as though each classmate was a close friend and we meant it!

To the class of 2011 I wish a sensational end of term; support each other, keep your dreams firmly in sight, devote time to study, allocate moments to reflect and retain a determined attitude. I wish you a creative and courageous study period and a rewarding HSC.

Filed Under: Self Esteem Tagged With: best weeks of school, To the class of 2011

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