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Why Do Children Lose Interest in School?

October 1, 2013 By Nicole Feledy

Why do children lose interest in school and what can we, as parents and teachers, do about it? Apparently our new Federal Minister for Education, Mr Christopher Pyne wants to return to fact based learning. When I read this line I felt like crying – but then I consoled myself, perhaps he’d been misquoted.

 After all, how could a man involved in the foundation of Headspace get the  concept of learning in the 21st century so wrong. No, there must be some  mistake. 

 Surely our new minister realises life beyond the school gates requires more  than facts, competition and high stakes testing. He must know our children  need the tools of learning. They also need the confidence, flexibility and  proactive attitude to use those tools. And, they need to know who they are,  where they are and where they want to go.

Perhaps this is why too many of our teenagers lose interest in school. They lose interest in school because they don’t know where it will lead. They can’t see the relevance of their classes.

Now this doesn’t mean the classes are irrelevant. Instead it means that the students haven’t had the opportunity to develop an understanding of themselves and their goals. Since they haven’t developed personal awareness, they struggle to find personal relevance and without an ability to see the value in learning, it is difficult to learn self regulation and self motivation.

So, how can we as parents and teachers help our kids stay interested in school?

Not by doing what we’ve done before – not by throwing money at all things bright and shiny. Not by following some big technology splurge. Not by returning to the good ol’ days of facts and rote memory. Not by testing and measuring. Not by cramming an already crowded curriculum with one-off feel good programs. 

We need a valuable approach.

We can help our kids stay interested in school by moving toward opportunity. We can help them recognise the relevance and value of school by giving them the chance to get to know themselves better.

How?

By allowing them to learn how to recognise their own thoughts, emotions, values and dreams. By supporting their search for a place within societies fabric.  And by giving them the tools of learning – critical, creative and emotional literacy and, functional numeracy.

These skills need to be embed into the curriculum. They need to be as day-to-day as morning recess. The wonderful news is they can be, and it doesn’t require adding to the curriculum. It simply requires a different way of looking at things. If we focus on the students and what they need, facts become relevant. 

I’d love to know what you think? How could you use the facts you know to help a teenager learn more about themselves? How can you help them see the personal relevance of facts? I do it through stories.

 

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Filed Under: Blog, Learning Tagged With: Christopher Pyne and back to basics, teenagers lose interest in school, Why do children lose interest in school

Creative Kids Get Better Grades

September 24, 2013 By Nicole Feledy

Teachers who help students develop their innate creativity are preparing them for the future. In contrast, traditional modes of education, which focus on getting the right answer and passing exams, stifle a child’s curiosity and willingness to make mistakes.

 What do you think?

 Imagine being back at school. How well did your experiences in the  classroom prepare you for what you’re doing today?

 According to Sir Ken Robinson schools kill creativity. In the TED talk below  he explains “we’re running national education systems where mistakes are  the worse things you can make”.

 As an English teacher, I love the way Robinson blends stories with theories  to encourage his audience to look beyond what they’ve always been told, to the implications of doing what’s always been done.  One of my favourite descriptions is that of university professors who live so much of their lives in their minds that their bodies are simply a means to get their heads to a meeting.

It is worth noting that this particular TED talk was given in 2006. However, far from being ‘old news’ Robinson’s words have as much, if not more, relevance today. Our children are facing a digitally enhanced world that is filled with old world problems – evils such as bullying reach beyond school yard and classroom to homes and bedrooms.

Our children need to develop the mind-strength that comes with creativity so they can face their future with a confident, proactive attitude. We need to help them develop the problem solving skills that fuel resilience. In other words, we need to let them fail so they may learn.

Robinson argues “creativity is as important as literacy and we should treat it with the same status.” I think he has a point. We need to teach critical, creative and emotional literacy so our kids have the skills they need to think clearly, perform at their best and be who they want to be.

This presentation is a humorous, thought provoking look at the role of creativity in a modern age. Have a look and let me know what you think.


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Filed Under: Blog, Learning Tagged With: creative kids get better grades, creativity and schools, develop mind strength, encourage creativity, schools kill creativity

Just Tell Me What to Do

June 26, 2013 By Nicole Feledy

Some students don’t want autonomy. They don’t want the space to be creative, they don’t want to direct their own learning and they certainly don’t want make their own decisions. Some students simply want to be given the required information.

  

     Does that mean we should go back to sage on the stage instruction?

     

     Should we ditch project based learning?

     

 

No, of course not. But we do need to understand ‘who’ students are, ‘where’ they are and then provide the tools for learning.

True, the internet is littered with stories about teenagers discovering learning, finding new ways to use technology and developing their own start ups, but few will take this kind of initiative.

We could bemoan the lack of motivation and point to the problems which promote passive learning. We could blame helicopter parents, over crowded curriculums and high stakes testing.

Or, we could just teach. 

In other words, we can make the process of learning visible. We can help our students rise above environmental, political and social factors to discover intrinsic motivation and creative inspiration.  We can give students confidence in their ability to learn.

How?

Imagine how you’d feel opening a door that led to a dark, unfamiliar room. Perhaps you’d stand at the threshold waiting for someone else to go first. Maybe you’d enter the room slowly; anxiously feeling your way, expecting to bump into obstacles. You may even refuse to enter.

Now imagine being given a torch. How would your process through the room change?

Perhaps this small radiant beam would entice you to step into the unknown, its brightness offering a sense of security. Maybe the light would reassure you; it could help you see where you were going and assess the risk.

This is what we need to give our students. A guiding light that illuminates the path through unfamiliar learning situations. If a student believes they have the tools necessary to complete a task, they are more likely to approach a challenge with a sense of anticipation, rather than one of dread … or boredom. At this point I should remind you, my analogy called for a torch not a flood light – perhaps you can imagine why? (After all this post is as much about modelling as it is about encouraging the development of intrinsic learning).

I believe it is important to recognise the impact student’s self perception. Sometimes we need to teach engagement because students haven’t seen they have the skills to perform a task – or they lack confidence in their ability to learn. We need to provide base tools before we can expect intrinsic motivation or creative inspiration. We need to model and offer opportunities for students to practice the skills of inquiry, problem solving and critical thinking. Why? Because when we teach how to learn, we give students the tools for flexible thinking. This feeds confident learning, which boosts courageous learning and encourages students to make their own choices. I guess what I’m trying to say is self motivation, as with any skill, has a more progressive step by step learning path than we may perceive.

So, we need to offer opportunities for creative inspiration. Yes …  we need to offer. In other words we, as teachers, need to provide the space for students to feel confident enough to explore, experiment and build on their own.

Anyone who has met me, knows I believe very strongly in wellbeing, choice and freedom. I am passionate about self-direct learning. However, I am also realistic enough to know many students do not like being given a problem and told, “solve it”. Most students – actually, if we’re being honest, most of us, like some structure, a few parameters, a little direction. We like to know what is expected of us and that we can access what we need to complete the task. We don’t like feeling as though we are wasting our time, or our energy. We are motivated by accomplishment.

So, next time a students says to you “just tell me what I have to do” instead of decrying the coddled state of today’s teens, perhaps you could hand them a torch and say “lets find out together.”

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Filed Under: Blog, Learning, Teaching Tagged With: Just tell me what to do, student intrinsic motivation, student motivation, students want information, teach motivation

What Motivates Students?

May 19, 2013 By Nicole Feledy

What motivates you? Is it money, praise or the opportunity to prove you’re better than than the next person? Or, is it something else? Is it an elusive determination to discover more. 

 In his TED talk What Makes Us Feel Good About Our Work, Dan Ariely  explores the concept of motivation. Although he focuses on the labour  market his results have specific relevance to education and learning. He  suggests money isn’t always the prime motivator. Rather, Ariely says  progress and a sense of accomplishment may be more encouraging. 

 I think he has a point.

 As a teacher I have seen meaningless tasks, tasks that lack an authentic  audience, lead to glazed eyes and fidgeting fingers . The ensuing  boredom  provokes a search for something more ‘entertaining’, something that infers challenge. Similarly a lack of recognition often sends students hunting for more attention – any attention. 

As his presentation concludes Ariely proposes, ‘in a knowledge economy, meaning is more important than efficiency’. He explains, motivation is not born of payment and empty praise, but of factors such as “meaning, creation, challenge, ownership, identity and pride”. 

I believe him.

I have seen the crestfallen looks of students who laboured faithfully over a particular piece of work, only to be given a number on a page, a number suggesting they haven’t done enough. Although some strive to ‘make the grade’. Many don’t. They become angry, frustrated and bitterly disappointed. They feel as though their efforts have been wasted. 

Our students need more than red scratches on a piece of paper. They deserve more than abstract numbers to signal success. They require progress.

We can offer authentic learning experiences. We can set tasks that have real world application. We can provide opportunities to apply knowledge and solve problems – challenges which are relevant to students’ experience.

We can give our students a chance to feel motivated. 

If you watch the clip, here’s a challenge. Can you think of a way to use these ideas to increase your own motivation? In a sense I’m asking you to manage your own motivational mindset.

 

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Filed Under: Blog, Learning Tagged With: Dan Ariely relevance to education, give students a chance to feel motivated, motivate students, What motivates, What motivates students

Why Does Everything in English Have to Be a Metaphor For Something?

May 10, 2013 By Nicole Feledy

“Why does everything in English have to be a metaphor for something? Why can’t a fence be just a fence”  This question, proposed by a somewhat frustrated student, prompted the following discussion.

  Student 1 – Why does everything in English have to be a metaphor for                            something? Why can’t a fence be just a fence. 

  Student 2 – Because the fence represents the character’s feelings of being                      trapped.

  Student 1 – Or is it just a fence.

  Student 3 – I think it’s just a fence.

  Student 2 – It is definitely not just a fence.

 Student 4 – The fence is just a fence, but it also has a deeper meaning than you’ll ever know.

 Student 5 – Yeah, but do we really care about this deeper meaning of the fence?

 Student 6 – Yes of course. An A-range student always cares about the deeper meaning of objects.

 Student 7 – I’ll tell (teacher’s name) where he can put that deeper meaning of a fence!

 

I found this exchange incredibly encouraging. Here was a group of students actively thinking about their learning. They were not sitting in class dutifully absorbing material presented by a teacher; they were reflecting and evaluating.These students were engaged in thoughtful dialogue. They were asking questions and proposing answers. 

These seven students were laying the foundations for critical evaluation. 

I believe this is one of those ‘catch them doing something good’ moments that requires recognition and praise. We need to acknowledge the learning within exchanges such as this so our students can. 

So, congratulations girls and boys – you have witnessed, participated and jumped a figurative fence.

 

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